My paternal grandparents are horrible people

It's normal, unfortunately. There's lots of cruel people in the world and chances are at least some of them will be related to us. Just stay as far away from them as possible.

If you have a choice, maybe you should just drop them, well, not literally, like off a bridge, but more like ignore them, i do that to my father, since i hate him, he is cold, and uncaring, so i decided to (as i call it) "drop him" hey, ignorance is bliss! in this case it can really be bliss, not just ignorance

If you are a boy, you're most likely to dislike your paternal family. Still, they sound like truly horrible people.

I guess you'd want to keep your distance.

But are these horrible things all stories your Dad tells, or things you experienced yourself?

If they are things you experienced, fine.

If not, you may want to judge them on the basis of your relationship now, not his then.

I know what you mean. I only have two grandparents left, one on my mother's side one on my father's and it isn't easy excepting them sometimes. My Dad would always say that the only way he ever knew what love was was because of his mother. His mom died when he was fifteen and now that I'm fifteen it's really hard to imagin either of my parents being gone. His dad is racist, cold hearted, and has mentle problems. Long story short, he just moved into my Dad's house and he's driving everyone nuts. Sometimes though, you just have to bite your touge. We're not them, and we don't have to be like them.

Im related to Albert Einstein. And Dolly Parton.

they don't even sound that bad you're probably just a pussy.

I can relate though not entirely.

I loved my grandfather on my mother's side. While he was a hoarder and seemed to be suffering from some type of mental illness or psychical illness that mimicked the behaviors of a mental illness, he was still a very good man. He was a mathematician who worked for the government, a computer wiz, a saxophonist and a experienced gardener. He was absolutely wonderful and I sadly took his time on this planet for granted. He was terribly abused as a child, I think mainly by his grandmother,and consequently he believed that children were always right and that they should have their way on things.

Ironically, he married a women who was and is a child molester. I don't think that he was aware of this side of her… I have reason to believe that she molested my mother and I know for a fact that she sexually as well as verbally, mentally, emotionally and occasionally psychically abused me. She is evil to the core, it disturbs me to wonder how many other children she has defiled in her lifetime. How many lives she has destroyed. Growing up, I missed curtail signs that she was what she was. She tried to brainwash me and turn me against my grandfather. She told me that he was crazy and abusive and that I shouldn't grow up to be like him. Yes, he called her names and what not, but now that I'm older I realize that his behaviors were completely justified. She is a bitch. She is stupid and ignorant. etc. I feel bad that I ever once believed and sided with that monster. It would have been nice if she was the one who died and my grandfather was still alive and well.

I shall get my revenge one day by pressing charges against her and exposing the real her to the world.

As for my Father's parent's I have no idea. My mother cut off contact with my father's family sometime after he died for what I interpret to have been for selfish and immature reasons. I also wonder if there was something "deeper" to it… My father's family and his stepmother, have tried/shown an interest into getting to know me, but I have yet to contact them. It is not that I don't want to because, I do. It is all very complicated though.