My parents visiting is making me depressed. iin?

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My parents visit me once a year for a month. This makes me feel almost suicidal. I can't tell them either because that would make it even worse. I especially hate how my mother always stays at my house. She never goes on a walk together with my father. Instead she keeps doing I don't know what, and talking to herself. I'm just so sick of how I always have to hear her walk around and mumble to herself even with the door closed. I've been sitting in the same room for hours with the door closed just to avoid her, and I still feel like I'm walking on eggshells. My parents also both complain about my house being too dirty, even though I clean almost daily. Also, they only want to talk about topics they're interested in. So whenever I start talking about something they aren't interested in they get annoyed. Also, my father goes on endless walks, and doesn't even bother to get back for lunch. Because he is such an extreme loner he doesn't want my mother to go with him either.
is it normal to get this depressed about parents visiting?

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Based on 41 votes (37 yes)
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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    It seems like your family still has issues to resolve from long ago, you didn't get along and perhaps recalling this makes you depressed, I know it does for me. Talking doesn't always help but it's a start. I think you should just relax, be yourself and do things you consider fun or relaxing while they are there to ease off your tension. Try to be as you usually are when they aren't there and smile a lot to lighten the mood.

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  • FluffySheep
    12 years ago

    Well what's the whole reason they visit you if they don't actually interact with you?!
    I would totally get annoyed as well if my parents are like that. Maybe whenever your dad goes for a walk you should get your mom and yourself to go with him and enjoy some family time, because then you'd have the chance to talk to your friends about your feelings.

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  • swime
    12 years ago

    I'm pretty sure that most adults that want be happy and normal no longer are on speaking terms with their parents, so yes it's normal for them to make you depressed and you should stop speaking to them to remedy this

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    burn your house down while they are sleeping. this will solve the problem.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    12 years ago

    They may do your head in but it's for 1 month year.
    I would suggest talking to them, especially your mother, she wont understand she is doing anything to irritate you unless you voice it to her.
    As for her mumbling to herself- that's just one of her traits, it's a habit she can't just change so maybe you need to just learn to let it go over your head, your poor dad has to live with it!
    Of course it's normal, the people I love the most in the world get on my nerves sometimes but at the end of the day they're your parents and they wont be around forever just try n look at the positive side of things and enjoy your time with them =)

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