My parents have gone physco because my boyfriend is 21

hypocritical**
psycho**
and they're doing the right thing, they don't want him to fuck you and runaway! they want to protect you!

Your right, it's hypocritical because there is nothing wrong with an age gap... however legally (assuming the law says you need to be 18 where you are) you are not mentally ready to be with someone mentally older then you because they could take advantage of you, it's often called grooming. If you love this guy and feels he respects you, agree to wait until you are 18... if it's real, then it will be worth the wait. To both of you... I know it's hard because you probably feel like you know everything already about the world. Sad thing is,, parents are usually right on big deals like this... they may have learned the hard way themselves from their childhood or a scary story they have heard about someone they knew. They are just trying to protect you because they love you. Locking you up is a step too far but it's fear for your safety and wellbeing that is pushing them there. The best thing you can't do is show them you are greatful for their love and concern and that you respect them but you respect yourself too. This man could be kind and have good intentions towards you, sadly majority of them don't. If you really mean anything to him he will not mind waiting a year. And if he does mind, well, you have your answer on what he wants you for. Just try look at it from there side, like if it was your own daughter... but be confident in who you are and follow your gut always. Hopefully he won't be a bad lesson you have to learn

Was your mom 17 and your dad 27 (vice versa)? If not, then they have a right to say no. Technically you're still a minor and that is frowned upon in this society :( and you should want to date someone your age anyway!

The difference is you're under age and your parents are both adults.

I'm assuming they feed you and house you for free. And you're on their phone plan, besides. It's hard to see it at 17, but you're in real debt to your parents. You pay it off my complying with their wishes, especially when it's tough.

They still see you as their baby girl, and giving you over to an older man is difficult on several levels. What you should do is respect their wishes until you are no longer under their responsibility. And when you get that freedom, be prepared to hold yourself accountable.

parent measures might be abit extreme but 4 years is a little much of an age gap at your age. I f you were 5-10 years older the 4 year gap wouldn't be as big a deal but at 17 it is

...physco?

Your spelling prowess, or rather lack thereof, proves you unworthy of having any say on the matter!

Yes its normal Approach them as an adult.. Get approval. Does your dad have a gun?? You maybe asked if he's touched you.

You really shouldn't be fucking 21 year olds. Wait until you are 18.

Your so naive!! Have fun your screwed ;)

Not quite psycho, but unfair, hypocritical, and foolish yes. They are a product of a society that puts arbitrary rules and unneeded regulations of things that vary greatly on situation.

Not only that, but taking all those things away from you just shows that they are the less mature ones. Making other's lives worse for their own benefit.

Sounds like some Bullshit to me.