My parents hate each other and won't divorce. iin?
My parents have been married for 21 years, prior to marrying they were together 4 years. My mum got pregnant with me, and her father rushed them to the altar 5 weeks after he was told.
From what I've been told, they were going to get married anyway and they were very in love as you'd expect. But my auntie told me that the very minute they said "I do." they've despised each other and can't bear to be in the same room together. When I was born, it went more smoothly for a while, but my brother was born just 15 months after me and the closeness in our ages made it difficult for them, because they had two babies, and they were older than most first time parents (30 and 33).
Then my dad took a job many miles away and never really saw us, and when he did my parents argued constantly, he would never help around the house and he expected my mum to do everything like give us dinner and bath us and things. It was like that for years. They were going to get divorced after being married 5 years but wanted to work it out because of having two young kids. But when I was 14 and my brother was 12 my dad started having heated arguments with us for no reason, and once or twice blamed us for the failure of his marriage (me more so than my brother because I was born first). My dad then gave up his job, lazed around the house and let my mum be the money earner. She payed for everything while I was growing up. Everything. He never played with us or took us out, he didn't even teach my brother how to play Football or shave or anything, and was completely unsupportive when he wanted to be a cyclist and not an engineer like he'd wanted. As for me, he thinks I'm to much like my mother apparently, and I feel he still puts 60% of the blame on me and the other 40% on my brother for ruining his marriage.
It's been like this for years, they're even worse now that me and my brother moved out and we left them alone together. We've begged them to split up, literally begged and pleaded with them, but they won't do it. My mum CONSTANTLY complains about my dad. And my dad has drifted away from me and when I asked him why he said it's because I remind him too much of my mum. They both claim they don't have the money for it. But they do. I know they do because both their parents died recently and left money for them, enough to divorce (which is what everyone including themselves wants to happen). I don't see why they won't split, their kids are grown up now and I fail to see any reason at all why they stay together, IIN?