My parents forced me to go through with a pregnancy.

I understand your anger at your parents. It's your choice to give birth or not. But it's time to grow up and look at the here and now. You have a child, not in the circumstances you may have liked but you have a child. This child deserves your love and nothing less. If you cannot cope than I hate to say it. Adoptation is needed. One thing the world does not need is another woman mothering a child of which she dispise.

Your parents are dumbasses.

The person I feel bad for is your child.

WTF did your child ever do to you to earn this hate? Being born?

How would you like it if your parents told you they hated you for existing?

Yes you got dealt a sucky hand. But you make it worse by clinging to your gripes and taking them out of the one person who didn't deserve your scorn.

Its a horrible situation you were in (you could have been the one to push for charges btw) but I feel more sorry for your child. There's very few things more sad in this world than a child with a parent that doesn't care.

Don't make your son a victim.....

Thanks for the responses. I'm sorry that the post made it seem lke I hated the child and take it out on him, which is not so. I did, and do, everyting right regarding raising him. He doesn't know of the anger, I've kept that to myself. I'm not an evil person!!

My anger is not directed at him but at the situation. My parents are the ones I am angry about. I say I dislike him (he blames me for thigs beyond my control), but it's because he is difficult due to no father figure and this causes problems (legal, behavior, etc...he doesn't recognize how hard I've worked to make up for this) He is unaware of my anger of the situation. Don't get me wrong! I don't treat him with anyting but love, I keep my frustration to myself.

I just feel as though I was done wrong by my parents and I can't comprehend why they'd force me through the situation, and how the situation has become harder and harder for me to deal with, with every passing day since day one. I couldn't imagine doing that to my child, to give him no options in such a situation and offer no options or help.

The toll it has taken on me, and on the child (for not having a father in his life all this time), having no help or support, just because of their control over me at the time, I feel was wrong and shouldn't have happened. I've never heard of such a thing happeneing to anyone else, usually parents explore options in such a situation, especially in a rape situation. I don't think it was right to make this decision for me and leave me with no options.

look i was 14 when i had my 1st child and i was gangraped, i didnt want to have him but my parentas made me go through with it and in time i relaised its not my childs fault so look at what you have a wonderful child, you dont seem to realise how lucky you are because there are plenty of poeple who would kill to have just one of there own children

this is sad.

no offense, your parents must be religious idiots.

At the same time it WAS statutory so you should've been smarter about it. Your parents should have been smarter about it also. It's your body. You should write a book.

I don't think that was normal at all unless your parents are very religious and conservative. I find what you had to go through absolutely appalling as well. I'm not sure what other options you would have had at the time, given that you were underage. However, think about what you can do now to improve things and unburden yourself from these feelings of regret and resentment. Maybe you could speak to a counselor. Maybe you could even still press charges against your rapist, if that would help to bring a sense of justice and closure. Good luck!

No one forces you to do anything... Seems like a lane excuse honestly. And by the way... Kids turn out for the most part the way the parent raises them. I don't know what you did but you probably are not the best parent considering your spite toward the poor kid which is reviling. I don't really feel sorry for you... Just your kid.

Please, don't take it out on your child. I know that it probably reminds you of the whole ordeal but, it's not its fault. Your child needs your love.

Yes your attitude is normal. God, that's horrible. I feel so bad for you, and the kid.

hate your parents, but your kid never intentionally hurt you, and you could of put it up for adoption, it was YOUR decision after all.

Your parents were wrong, plain and simple. Even though you were underage, they had no right to tell you what to do with your body. If you didn't want a child, then as long as it wasn't late-term, you should have had the right to terminate. It was your choice.

I would never have an abortion. But I do believe in choice. The best thing you can do now is raise your child as best you can under the circumstances, and love him (or her?) for who he/she is. It's not their fault.

Your parents must be religious. That's the only reason someone would be ignorant enough to do that to their daughter. And by the way being pro-choice is being pro-life! She would've had a better life is she had made her own decision. A woman's right to reproduce should be hers and no one else's.

your parents were flat out wrong making that much of an important decision for you.

Once again, I NEVER said I hated the child. I dislike him for reasons I will describe, he made my life very hard (since birth) and guilt tripped me every chance he got for reasons beyond my control. He believes he is entitled to much more than i can give him. Though I do try my best to give him everytthing I can, there's some things I can't. Such as forcing his father to be there (which he flat out refuses, what can I do about that??) and to demand things I can't afford to purposely make me feel bad. I'm going it alone, he has no concept of that (or he does, but never stops pushing the matter). He has a mean and hurtful personality that, while he may feel entitled to, but he realizes it and not make it so hard for me. He is extremely intelligent, and extremely manipulative. He has been on probation for years now, I've tried and tried to help him to stay out of trouble and off drugs but to no avail. I guess I should've said I dislike his attitude and behavior, not that I dislike him personally. He enjoys using people, especially tose who love him and care for him. He is under psychiatric care, and all he cares about is learning new tactics to use poeple and obtain drugs.

Again, I dislike what he does, his personality, but I love him incredibly and help and care for him extraordinarily. There is absolutely no neglect or abuse in any form. I will care for him and love him to the bitter end, just understand how hard it is. I feel like he will end up in prison, and I'm doing what I can do to prevent that but it seems futile at this point, so as you can see, I am incredibly frustrated and have tried everyting. I'm starting to think he needs to be in prison, which saddnes me to the core.

She did say this was 15 yrs ago, so the kid's a little too old to give up for adoption... well you only have a few more years before he/she is old enough to move out! then you'll be free! look forward to that.

I'm sure being told 'well one day you'll have grandkids' isn't exactly something to be considered a 'silver lining' when you didn't even want the kid in the first place... and it's a reminder that one day you'll be old.

Also, if she had the kid under-age, then it's possible she'll have grand kids at entirely too young an age (maybe 30?) that always sucks.

I'm sure if you had genuinely hated your child you would've left it in a government office or a church doorway. I think you're being over dramatic coz there's too much involved in nurturing a child, and if you hadn't been interested then it would've starved to death or been taken off you by doctors or other professionals you came into contact with.

Your parents should not have put you through that situation but the fact of the matter is you have a child. You can do three things, a.)be a mother, love your child and let him/her to be able to grow up in a loving home or b.) give him/her to someone who can provide for them emotionally and allow them to live a life without feeling worthless or c.) keep him/her and continue blaming and disliking him/her. You have probably already caused emotional pain towards your child. A child who isn't loved or is blamed for events that was not in there control have low self-esteem and could have depression. Don't let your parents decision effect your child, he/she did not have any control over the situation.

you can still press charges there is no statue of limitations (not sure if im using the right term) on rape statutory rape etc. look into it. but it's not the kids fault love him or give him to someone who will.

This is horrible.

how terrible for ypu and the child, i think adoption would have been better, . just think years from now you may have grandkids , a silver lining to your dark cloud

Hate your parents then for goodness sake, not YOUR CHILD. Honestly. Grow uppp, I hope all these comments on here have taught you something.