My opinion on relationships? iin?

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I think the whole concept of the relationship as a social construct is played out. It's over.

For a start, relationships are essentially a role-playing game. I mean GAME in the most literal possible sense: "A form of play or sport, esp. a competitive one played according to rules and decided by skill, strength, or luck." as the dictionary defines it.

The two parties modify their behavior CONSTANTLY. They may as well be in a play, but at the same time they also know exactly what is going to happen - either marriage or they're wasting eachother's time.

I also don't understand Craigslist or other shit sites like that. I've never used such a site myself, because I imagine the attempts at conversation and social civility to fill the time between meeting and fucking would be too darn uncomfortable and awkward.

Relationships are also outrageously hard on men. They apparently have to make radical behavioral modifications and lift boulders to gain female attention. I think women as a whole should respect better the vast sacrifices men made for them. They've sacrificed their masculinity and their behavior for one thing. Global testosterone levels have dropped vastly over the past couple of decades to that. Surely women can forgive and forget men for past sexism now?

We should come up with a kind of relationship-system reform. Like a communism of relationships if you will. Think about it, why did the social construct of the relationship turn out this way? Why couldn't they have been entirely polygamous, or pansexual? What would they have turned out like if Christianity or religion never existed?

We would have to give this relationship movement a buzzword and broadcast it over Facebook. Maybe just relationship communism? That sounds pretty good.

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago

    Wow, and I thought I was bitter :/

    I feel bad for you that your experience has led you to this point. I hope things get better.

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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    Did you forget that there is more than one type of relationship? Without them we would not live in societies, or have friends. And (this may sound harsh) it is your problem if you feel the need to modify your behavior to sustain a relationship. That is a horrible foundation to create. Dont change who you are just to meet some self percieved ideal you made up in your head as to how a relationship needs to be. That is your issue. If you want "free love" try loving freely, no judgments on the other.

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  • bananaface
    10 years ago

    Why not just let people do what they want? If people want to be in committed relationships (as many people do), then let them. If they don't, then that's fine too. I mean, if it's consensual and not harming anyone, then I can't say I'm too fussed.

    I find the "communism" aspect confusing, though. What's that got to do with what you're talking about?:S

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I think by that he's referring to people belonging to everybody else. He mentioned polygamy and in societies like that they believe that multiple people can be together but talk to an unmarried women and you're basically talking to somebodies wife because eventually she will marry. People are the product we share ourselves with everyone and don't really care too much about being called a slut or a man whore. We just have casual sex pretty much and try not to make a big deal of our bodies.

      At least that's what I got from the communism aspect of his post.

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  • EccentricWeird
    10 years ago

    I didn't ask you for your fucking opinion.

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  • Nephew7
    10 years ago

    You're brainwashed to think a relationship is normal and it couldnt be farther from the truth, no other animal does this.

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  • jimrichy
    10 years ago

    So many sweeping generalisations based on nothing but your warped view. So strange!

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Ehh. That reform exists already. It's called "having casual sex". It's not too complicated and millions of people are having it right now, maybe you should go and join them?

    I'd give you a proper answer but I don't have much time.

    Oh, and "relationship communism" is a pretty bad buzzword if you're trying to appeal to a society where communism is feared by most people. "Free love" is a much better buzzword. They used it in the last sexual revolution and that seemed like it worked out pretty well.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      That "Casual sex" falls under the umbrella of what I mentioned about craigslist. The two parties are only interacting to execute a below-the-waist bodily function that happens to only be possible in tandem and is done just for gratification. What on earth do the two parties talk about during the time they meet and fuck? Do they make small talk about their occupations? I just imagine it being unbearably awkward.

      Also, as it would be up to Facebook to spread this meme, I imagine the young people who use it are desensitized to communism's connotations.

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      • RomeoDeMontague
        10 years ago

        Most relationships are a waste of time. Most relationships don't go anywhere. A lot of times the partner is planning for it to not go anywhere and the other partner is not always aware of this.

        People break up for tiny things like "Oh I just got bored". I will also say that not all people want to have sex with every other person and every other gender. So I do not think it would ever be everyone just doing each other in a circle.

        The current set up is logical in the fact that two make a commitment together and raise a family. Having a family seems to be encouraged by a lot of things. Yes women should not always assume men are sexist thanks to past but a lot of them still are.

        Relationships are I guess in a sense a game though so is life. If you can play it on a bored I think you can count it as such. I agree with you on most of what you said. It sounds like a good way of explaining relationships.

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        That small talk is just like any other form of flirting: only awkward if you make it to be so. But if you're both only looking for sex why make small talk at all? Just ask therm when and where they want to meet up; that's as far as the conversation needs to extend. And why only do it online? You can go to a club and meet people in the real world too, and probably have even less conversation if you both know what you want.

        Much of culture demonises communism, and that definitely trickles down to young people. Whether it's demonised or celebrated, it's a very heavily loaded term. As a phrase, "relationship communism" hardly rolls off the tongue - it sounds overly intellectual and also has connotations of owning "property" (communism has connotations with equal ownership of property, which sounds very objectifying when you apply it to relationships), which isn't the message you're trying to get across at all when it comes to sex and relationships. It makes it sound like a very serious political ideology rather than a social movement which is actually promoting the casual.

        If you could make a slick, persuasive video (think Kony 2012 style) as to why you were right I bet you could get some traction to your movement, but what it would probably do practically is draw more people to the communities of those websites like craigslist looking for casual sex. What it probably wouldn't do is make your ideal of relationships the norm - the current norm is too entrenched in our culture.

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