My naricissist ex bf ruined my sex life forever

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We were together for three years, He was the first one I gave it up to but then after a while i got severely neglected and emotionally abused then physically abused for expressing justified anger. He even gave me hpv and herpes. I left him but now my sex drive is up and i have lots of opportunities but i need to be close with a guy before i have sex with him, the problem is i look at every guy as an std ridden demon in disguise and i just can't do it.. it really sucks, i still wanna experience the joys of [safe]sex before l lose my drive and my body:C any advice on how to get over this mental barrier. .

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    genital warts and Herpes no cure for either you hit the fucking jackpot.

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    • [Old Memory]
      6 years ago

      75% of the population has HPV. It can contribute to reproductive cancer, but for the majority of people, it has no symptoms or complications. Awareness is important for the purposes of monitoring your health, but the stigma is unwarranted; same deal with herpes. Most people (literally 50-80% of the population) contracts oral herpes at some point in their life and out of that majority, most people never have an outbreak, or only ever have one. Genital herpes is less common, but still affects up to 25% of women and 10% of men. It's more common in women, not because women are sluttier, just because the female reproductive system is more complex and internal, and therefore more able to incubate viruses. Again, most people who test positive for genital herpes never have an outbreak and for those who do, the first one is usually the most severe and many people never have a recurrence. Herpes is a virus that hijacks our immune response and strikes when our bodies are most vulnerable. Neither virus is curable through conventional Western medicine, (I've heard of alternative cures for herpes. I'm sure there is one out there, but I don't know enough about them to comment,) but both are manageable and not nearly as bad as they sound for most people. Like most common health concerns, we tend to hear about the most extreme cases.

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      • Nickvey
        6 years ago

        you have no sense of humor. Fucking jackpot, oh well never mind.

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        • [Old Memory]
          6 years ago

          I actually have a great sense of humor. I just know when it's appropriate to use it.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    You'll only lose your sex drive and body when you die.

    I imagine you're fairly young, but I can assure you that older people want and enjoy sex. Yeah, their bodies might not meet the standards of firmness and smoothness that the advertising industry and Hollywood tells us are the only sort of beauty, but women can still be sexy and beautiful when they are a whole lot older than you are now.

    I suggest you just give yourself time, and try to develop non-sexual relationships with guys. Not every friendship between a man and a woman has to culminate in sex. Maybe if you get to know some guys well and see that they aren't all asshats (although an alarming number of us are), then you'll feel more relaxed about getting into a relationship that might become sexual.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Just have lots of sex

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  • GeekZ
    6 years ago

    My partner was a similar case. I watched her OD and die. Three times. I recuccetated her. Sleeping pills still make me throw up on sight. I do hope for the best for you. I really do. I am religious so I would suggest prayers. But maybe that's not for you. I do gently suggest asking, you never know

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    Notice the female mind at work in this post. She wants a man before she loses her body and sex drive.

    THIS is why you never get married guys.

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    • AntiArchon
      6 years ago

      I don't believe in marriage and i don't need a man for financial help or to "take care of me".. i just mean its gonna be hard to get a fuckbuddy when i lose my "nice" body, plus if i'm not attractive anymore i think i'd be the type who won't put myself out there and just be depressed and shit..

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I can understand your hesitation to get back out there. It's not easy to be vulnerable with people when you've been hurt by someone you trusted. Have you considered seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma? It helped me work through a lot of issues and feel better about myself and life in general. Learning how to separate what's happening from what happened is a big part of being able to trust someone again.

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    • AntiArchon
      6 years ago

      Therapists aren't that great here in my country.. i'm just gonna pay them to tell me shit i already know., Anyway thanks for the reply.,big hug:)

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