My mother wont go to work, iin?

My mother won't go to work. She says that she will go next week, but next week never comes. She only has to volunteer for few hours on a monday from nine am. I don't understand why, she used to go regardless. When I asked why she won't go, she said now isn't a good time, and that next week is better. I then ask why she doesn't just quit, but then she gets all defensive and says something the lines of 'no, i'm not doing that'. She does go whenever my dad drives her there (they're divorced, so not often). I tried getting her out of her rutt today by waking up extra early for her benefit to remind her to go to work. I told her she needs to go to her work, she said 'next week is better' (hence the same argument above, as usual).
It's not an issue of being tired either. I went to bed much later than her and I woke up before her for her sake!

What should I do? I feel useless, like I should give up on her reluctance/laziness issues. I try to help, by issuing my concern and using persuasion and reason, but it just leads to frustration. She doesn't want to admit her problem and just continues on doing her daily same routine of housework. It doesn't take that long anyway, and she usually finishes after making lunch. She then just watchs TV and falls asleep at her chair before being told to go to bed (again, not for my benefit, she is obviously tired - but that is another issue entirely)

Please help me

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  • Ibelievethis

    Yeah I agree with the other posts your mum could be suffering from depression. It wont be easy but try to encourage her to seek medical advice. Depression is very common and treatable. Please remenber though that your mum is already doing the hardest job in the whole world that sadly society does not always respect (being a mum) You sound very supportive your mum is lucky to have you. Good luck and thoughts to you and your family xx

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Yeah, they all said it. That definitely sounds like depression. But listen to joybird. Getting some fresh air, and leaving the house a bit sounds like a good idea.

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  • joybird

    Your mom is depressed and needs professional help. I don't know how she hasn't lost her job already but if she did enjoy working, she needs to be reminded of the fun she had with her colleagues.

    She's lucky to have you, and I bet she knows it. However, all the coaxing etc won't work, she needs to see a doctor. What I found that helped me, was when my son forced me to go a walk round the block with him. It meant we were out of the house getting some fresh air, and chatting about things like friends. She needs to get out of the house, it's boring her into sleeping so much. Doctors would recommend at least one outside chore / walk a day for her.

    Good luck, and get help.

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  • crissyabear

    I agree sounds like depression.

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  • flax

    She might be suffering depression.

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