My mother means the best for me, but i hate her for it.

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My mother means the best for me. She really wants me to do really well in my studies and she wants me to score as well as I can. However, every morning she will wake me up by screaming my name, which is usually followed by a "WAKE UP, IT'S 9AM ALREADY" (Btw, I'm currently in school holidays). She will then force me to shovel down my breakfast before throwing (sometimes literally) a math book at me and telling me to revise before going off to do some other activity around the house (btw i'm 18). Being me means that I don't really have a long attention spam, which means that an hour of revision is all i can cope with before my mind begins to wander. That's when I usually begin procrastination on the internet. A short time after I get onto the web, she'll burst into my room and start screaming at me to get off it and get back to work. I'm kind of a rebellious child, so i refuse, saying that i'm revised for a good hour, and that it's ridiculous that she expects me to study 24/7 without any sort of time for myself. Then an argument breaks out which can run on for hours. These arguments consist of her hitting me and telling me i'm a waste of her blood and bone and telling me that her colleagues children are scoring well higher than I am and that she wishes that I was one of them. The thing is that, if I try to leave the house to catch some fresh air, or to simply escape the madness, she'll lock me out. She's left me outside overnight on more than one occasion, with no money and rather thin clothes, saying that a punishment like that is just what a stupid child needs.
I know she means that best for me, but i still hate her with all my heart. Is it normal that I do hate her, for trying her best to make me score higher?

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I don't know why but I don't believe a single word in the whole story. I'm sorry if it's real OP

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    • Uleco
      11 years ago

      It's real, but it's fine if you don't believe it. In retrospect it is a rather one sided take on the situation.

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        I apologise for not believing

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    My Dad used to do that when I got a bad grade or when I got into trouble, except I didn't get to sleep that long. You pretty much described my weekends after getting a bad Math grade.

    Move out. I did. Made my life difficult but I'd rather be worried about taxes, medical bills and work than what my Mom or Dad is gonna do to me next.

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    You're 18. It's time to stop thinking of yourself as a "rebellious child" and start thinking of yourself as an autonomous adult. If all of these things, especially the physical abuse, are happening to you regularly, then yes, it's understandable that you feel some hate for your mom, but from what you've written here, you feed into the situation by allowing it to continue.

    When you were 8, you didn't have a choice. You do now.

    Lock your door so she can't wake you up. Leave the house and let her lock you out while you stay with friends or get a motel room for a couple of nights. Get a job and move out of the house. Go to the police or a school counselor about the physical abuse.

    You aren't at fault for being abused, but you are allowing it to continue, possibly because you don't believe you have options. You do have options, plenty of them. Avail yourself of them and get away from this incredibly destructive woman while you still have some self-esteem left. She's poisonous.

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  • pubertyansewer
    10 years ago

    no offence but this isn't real but if it is this is what i have to say ,your such a stupid hoor why
    would you answer back so u started the arguement u bitch if u fucking respected your mum she wouldnt do that. and alot of asagerasion on the she locks you out you just a lazy old cunt and you probarly are a virgin so to change that a little bit go finger your mum and masterpate, that my advice u messed up slut

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    Locking u out to sleep outside is fuct

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  • Theadage
    11 years ago

    I know you know that she means the best for you... I have a good friend who was almost in the same predicament. Her mother would tell her to study, bring her down, etc... just ruined academic confidence. We're both now in college, the beginning of the first semester, she made herself a goal to succeed, and not look for her mothers recognition. She wanted to prove to herself that she could do it. And she did. Just know that you aren't worthless to your mother, regardless of how many times she may tell you.

    Don't do anything drastic, or disrespectful, she is still your mother in the end. Sometimes parents are blinded by the love they have , and they cannot see how much they're hurting you. My suggestion would be to move out, (to college or something)and prove to her that you can be successful on your own. She can't say no since you're trying to educate yourself...hehe.... When you move out, your relationship with your mother will get better! I sure know mine did. :)

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    • Uleco
      11 years ago

      Thank you so much for the advice. I think that sometimes, I just need a mature word of advice to push me in the right direction, because I'm now sure that the one I was going to take was the wrong one.
      So once again, Thank you.

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      • Theadage
        11 years ago

        Thanks, and Best of wishes to you!

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  • Koda
    11 years ago

    Yuck, what a domineering, controlling mother you have! I would leave her.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I would begin to question whether she even means the best for you at all, to be honest.

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  • littlemissidgaf
    11 years ago

    I can relate a lot my mom is EXACTLY the same

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