My mother is annoyingly pessimistic

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I'm going to try to explain this without sounding like a jerk...

Basically, my mother is a very pessimistic person. I am the complete opposite. I always try to look at the bright side of every situation and rather than crying about the problem at hand I try to find a solution to negative situations. My mother is always talking about depressing things and ruining everyone's mood when she speaks to us.

Let's say that I ask her to pick me up from somewhere that was a lot of fun - like a concert or something. When she arrives and I get in the car, the first few minutes are nice and peaceful and everything is okay. After the first few minutes "*sigh* I'm so depressed... Your grandfather this, and Jim that (Jim is her fiance), oh and then your grandparents did this... and your father? What an ass hole! he did this..." And so on.

I always try to help her with these situations - I try to give the best answer possible to help her escape these situations but she always manages to ruin the mood and shun me down. I don't want to sound arrogant, but I know a lot more information than she does and that is why I rarely get into trouble and start problems but I help others with theirs. She always tells me "Oh, I thought you were smarter than that..." whenever I give her a response because she doesn't have the motive to try what I ask her to do.

No matter how hard I try, she always upsets me and ruins my mood.

Is it normal that this annoys me? Is it normal to find depressed people extremely annoying when they don't even want to try to listen to what it is that I have to say? Especially when I'm trying to help!

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  • ijustmakeitworse
    11 years ago

    To be honest, I think she's just being more realistic. She may know too much information and it's bringing her down. I know for a fact that as I learn more about the world, it brings me down...a lot.

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  • Scolded_in_the_car
    6 years ago

    My mother is actually also like that. Well i'm not saying that its absolutely bad but everytime i see her she always talks about my grades and compares it with my friend that's like the 2nd smartest in school (yeah thats true) and whenever i say i dont want to be compared, she says its healthy comparison so that i am more driven to study. She also talks about acvidemts like this person got severely injured, died etc.I just hope she would talk about something more happy and bright and like care less of negative stuff in this world.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Dear God I know what you're talking about. People who are excessively negative and not only can't seem to find actual adults to talk to but feel the need to drag others down with them. And funny, their mentality is usually the reason why people opt not to hang around them. I have relatives like that. Normal.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I realize this post is a bit old. Anywho, my mother has been away for a while working with FEMA. She just called me maybe half an hour ago because she misses me and my siblings. She is all upset and stuff because none of us call her while she is away, because whenever we do call her she just ends up crying and ruining the day for the rest of us. I know that sounds rude but honestly, I want to enjoy my day once in a while. She calls me up and says "You never call me anymore. Do you not love me?" need I remind you we haven't talked in weeks? She then proceeds to lecture me "You need to make sure you always do your homework. Don't go out unless you know that shit gets done." You figure if you haven't talked to someone in a few weeks they'll have something nice to say not lecture you about homework and cry about how much they miss you.

      Honestly, I do care for my mother. I care for her quite a bit, I just can't stand her pessimism. I can't stand the constant annoyance of being bugged every day when I'm a very optimistic person. I try to be nice to her, but to avoid all of the bullshit, I don't talk to her too often.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    My mother is exactly the same way, and it bums me out to the max! I was having a fun evening with my little brother and some friends last night at the bar when my mother called, saying it was life and death, and proceeded to tell me about what her sister told her cousin, who told her aunt. And now she is getting chewed out for it. Kills me!

    And if you tell her your busy my mother will accuse me of not loving her or being a bad son!

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    Yikes, spilled blood:O!? I can see why someone would cry over that:P

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You get the idea, lol.

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