My mother dislike me because i am not successful ?

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Hi, i have a lot of issue with my mom but i will try to focus on this one. Since i am a teenager i am not good enough for my mom. As an individual i mean. Over the year of my teenage she repeated me how weak, pretancious, useless,depressed, lazy, immature, weird am, i and the list is very long. She tells me how much i am a coward and a disapointment because i don't have a good job. I dropped out of school because i was bullied and i couldn't take it anymore, my life at home was just as bad so i left home at age 16. I kept my job for 2 years and now i am back to school but nothing i do is good enough for her. She burst in rage, she would scream at me for hours, she bully me, when i cry she continues even more. she humiliate me in my back when she is drunk...she laugh out loud at how much i am lost and depressed (in her opinion that is). The other day she provoked me to fight her, physically. She's been like this for years, i'm 20 and i'm still hurt because of those things. Now she want me to give her a chance again but she break my heart. Look like she doesn't like me because of who i am, naturally. This is not normal right ?

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    Sounds like her shitty parenting skills is the reason why you aren't "successful". It's okay dude. Your young, but old enough to start parenting yourself. You are not unsuccessful precisely because you are so young. In 30 years you can reflect on whether you were successful or not; for now you have to work hard at what you love.

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  • Alec_the_Protector
    11 years ago

    Do not try to give her a second chance. Stand up for yourself. Do not live your life trying to please her. She is a pathetic excuse for a mother! Live your life for you, achieving what you want to achieve, and persuing what you want to persue because you want it for yourself. Do not ever let anyone walk all over you whether it is your own mother or the people that bullied you at school. You quit school because of them? Never let them have that victory. Regardless of what the situation may be. Take your vengeance by proving that you are stronger than the hell they can give you and prevail. And your mother, I'd say remove this woman from your life completely, because she is only doing you damage.

    Set a goal for yourself, focus on that goal. Do you still live with your mother? Set a goal to raise enough money to move out of that house. If you don't, set another goal. Maybe it's finishing school, maybe it getting a good job, whatever it may be focus on that goal, reach for that goal, don't stop until you get there, and never let life's shit bring you down because life is going to give you shit. Use the shit that life gives you to motivate you. Use it to push you somewhere that you want to be. Don't let it knock you down. Don't let it make you give up because life is full of shit. It's how you use it that matters.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    It's normal if your mother is a bitch. Tell her how much you dislike her for being so unsuccessful as a mother, that she's failed and should be ashamed. Only when you're living elsewhere of course.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      Yeah that's what I was thinking XD

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      • Puffin4+10yrs
        11 years ago

        Hang in there buddy, chin up! The pain and hurt goes away as the years go by.. The day will come wen the tables will turned and she's do anything just to spend time wit you or hear your voice.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I know! Funny how that works, right?

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Some of you on here would have been better off if they had flushed you down the toilet. Sounds like the best part run down your daddys leg!

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        You take this way too personal when no one is even talking about you. Look like you have a similar situation in your life and you are the mother.

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  • IDiGAFi
    11 years ago

    The best thing you can do is make her realize that all that stuff she hates you for, are to some degree her fault. And that all those bad things she sees in you are actually what she thinks of herself.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I doubt her hatred for you has much to do with your achievements or lack thereof. She has problems of her own and is probably unhappy with herself that she did not achieve what she wanted to achieve and unhappy that she did not get to live her "ideal life" out through you. Some parents literally don't have shit of their own to be proud of - they're the kind of parents where, if you ask them what they did with their lives, they will rattle off their kids achievements.

    Your Mom sounds like a very pitiful person. It's not your job to please her or give her the fulfillment she couldn't get herself.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Little brats blaming their mother and will not take responsiblity for their own self! I hate kids, I hate people!

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      • JakePlaid
        7 years ago

        Good, now shoot yourself

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    No, it's not normal. You sound like you have your own issues to deal with and her behaviour is making it worse, not better.

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