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why wont my mother allow me 2go on holiday with my boyfriend of 3years? im 24 shudnt i b allowed to make my own decisions? wtf what do i do, she keepz telling me im not even engaged to him and that i have no morals.
The greater question to ask is "Why do I empower my mother to dictate my life?" If your age is 24, you are emancipated, legally. You have the right to make your own decisions.
Cut the cord. Have a thoughtful, respectful conversation with your mother. Let her know how much you love her, and that you're glad she cares for you. Then, let her know that you have a need to be on your own - make your own life.
Further, ask yourself: "Why do I want to go on holiday with this person?" Is it to rebel against my mother, or is there a real, meaningful motivation. Love, perhaps?
I'm sorry but you sound like a whiny teenager. Can't you see that your mom loves you and concerned about your well being? What have you done that would make her feel that she can trust you being alone with your boyfriend? She probably doesn't want you to do something that you may later regret, like getting pregnant. Maybe, your mom got pregnant when she was young? Be glad that she cares enough to look out for you.
Maybe your mummas just jealous of your happiness? Do whatever you like, so not live to please others xoxo
Wow...why the hell are you asking your mum? if you are TWENTY FOUR? really?
yea why is it even up to your mom what u do i am 19 and never even think to ask my mom permission for anything
She is worried. Talk to her about her concerns. Maybe she is not confident this guy will protect you like she will or she does not want to feel this way? If a mother starts to let go of a single child with out a life plan she has nothing. has your mother got a plan for her life after you move on with yours? The holiday could be to much of a reality check.
You shouldnt get married just to gain something you should already have. You're 24, you make your own desitions now. Just know that your desitions affect others. Maby you should try to get a better understanding of why your mother feels it important for you to get married befor you go on holiday with him. It's my asumption she's worried about sex. Talk to her more about her conserns and reasons for you not to go.
lolz sms freak, due to spelling. well im done with my studying. im working. have my own money, thus contribute towards the home as well. her excuse for not allowing me to go is that him and i arent married or proposed. shud i get married to gain freedom???
in my opinion you are old enough and accomplished enough to do what you want to. some young ladies do end up getting married to gain freedom, but do you want to marry this guy? and does he want to marry you? if it's yes and yes, maybe you should consider it.
how about getting your own place? could you do that? then you could come and go as you please. good luck. even though you don't agree, your mom is really looking out for your best interest.
for one thing, find a better school for the spelling and typing......just kidding
really, the reason your mom bosses you around is because she is your mom. if she's paying for your schooling, housing, etc., she is in charge, like it or not. just because you are 24 doesn't mean you are ready to make your own decisions. i think your mother is trying to guide you in the direction she sees as the right one.
if you are 24 years old, and still need permission to go anywhere, i am thinking that either you are not acting like a mature person and that your mother feels she needs to control you, or, your mother is a control freak and it will never end. you didn't give any details, so i can't help you there.
at 24 you should be finishing your masters, right? isn't that accomplished enough for your mother to "allow" you to go away?