My mother and i, hate?

my mom ate my goldfish

Years ago your Mother used to come over to my place and suck me off just because she felt sorry for me because I was depressed. She stopped and I am wondering now if it was because of you. If she doesn't come back I am expecting you to take her place. Thank you.

Basically what they said. In the meantime,avoid as much as praictical. You do not want them to be suspicous. And dont feel bad there are times when me and my mother do not get along (partlly becuz of my beliefs,she is an atheist and partilly becuz I do hide things from them,which is just my way of avoiding problems,but this is me,not u). I would suggest counseling if possible. But sometimes there is no way to do,wither money,emotions whatever.

^ great post...love the poster haha!

Your mother is a bitter and abusive woman who is poisoning you and will deeply resent that you will not make the mess of your life that she did.

Do not reproach yourself for feeling resentment - you have been blamed, mistreated and poorly protected by this woman. That she was a child when she had you is no reason to put the burden on you.

Great advice about having a positive life plan. Success is its own reward, (as well as the best revenge - been there).

In terms of coping now - lots of friends, school activities, job, and whatever that minimizes you being in that house and exposed to those sad, nasty and limited people.

In time, when you are grown up & are less vulnerable, you may begin to feel less resentful towards her & can let that go, for the most part. But how you feel now is a direct consequence of her behaviour.

It is great that you are empowering yourself.

I am so very sorry you are having to endure this. It is tough being in a place where life seems uncertain, but so much truth is there in the pain. I know someone whom went through exactly the same thing. For so long she resented her mother because she never believed it, and now as an adult she is finally working things out. Her mother is still with her step father regardless of the sexual acts he has done to her. If you'd ask her today the only thing that has brought her sanity was Forgiveness. Yes! Forgiveness. She forgave her mother, her step father even though there has been so much emotional pain. Her mother is having the hardest time forgiving herself. How could she not have seen this or much less believed her young daughter. Just like you said, "Her daughter was like the other woman." Today, they still have to work things out. I will pray for you. God never gives you more than you can handle. God Bless.

I can relate to you in the sense that I do feel resentment towards my mother as well. It is hard to admit something like this because we are programmed to love our parent unconditionally. To admit resent automatically puts us into the "bad children" category.

I am sorry to hear about what you had to endure regarding your stepfather. There was a period of time when my mom actually treated me like the "other woman" all because my stepfather wanted to be nice to me. I remember one instance when my mom stormed out of the house because my stepfather showed some genuine care and concern for me. He was never the same after that.

I cannot comment on how to fix or improve the situation since I have not been able to find closure to my situation.

It is difficult hating your mum. I can't stand my mum and there is a part of me that tries so hard to get her attention, but the more I try the more she pushes me away and the harder I hurt inside. I ignor her and try to keep contact at a minimum although I live with her.

Maybe you and your mum need counceling, there may be something that has happened to her in her past which she can not get over and is effecting her relationship with you.

Maybe when you become more independent she will realise that she still needs you.

I despise my mother, as she basically turned me into a complete social recluse, and being cruel.

NEVER feel reponsible for anything, and NEVER feel like you owe your mother something. They brought you into the world, you Didn't make em.

Never forgive, never forget. But move on.

I for one am so sorry that this has happened to you. While you can, make the best of your education if you are still in school and try to get the best grades possible, and take out a student loan for college. It's a lot of work, but when you are successful and have a job, you can leave the troubles of your past far behind and begin anew. That's my plan-you aren't alone.

All you can do is ignore the both of them or try to get along as best you can until you can make your "escape". Now, OF COURSE do not run away! By escape I mean you going off to college and moving away. Maybe stay with another relative or very close friend that you trust? I hope your situation improves and that you can be free some day.

I will pray for you,
KAPUS

go to counciling together. your mother is a very important figure in your life, and its normal to have conflicts with someone your so close with, especially when the both of you have had such a hard life. but the relationship is too important to waste. if you see a therapist together you can work out your issues with a neutral 3rd party to mediate and give advice.