My monthly hell

About a week before my period is due I start feeling awful ; really tired, no energy, feeling really ugly, crying, angry, stressed, really up and down, and my hair goes all thin and horrible.
When I was about 15 I cried so bad every month that I went onto the pill, it helped a lot for a good year or so then it started having the reverse effect so I came off them, I was okay and tried to manage myself. But recently all the above I mentioned has started. Is it normal? I mean I'm more worried about my hair I feel so ugly and can't stand to look in the mirror
I always had long beautiful thick hair, washed 2 times a week and cut regular, but I always had it tied back which I now regret with a horrible hairline. I try and tie it back now and it pulls on my hairline so much, how do other girls get it to be comfy?:/
I then went onto washing everyday and blow drying I could see it was becoming damaged but nothing a good cut couldn't sort, then I stopped with the hair dryer and washed 6 times a week. I don't have much of a style and I'm scared of getting a fringe but right now it won't go right at all, I miss my short bits that grow at the front but how do I tell my hairdresser that??

Any help with all this?