My mom makes fun of me

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my mom makes fun of me about who i like. its so annoying! but is it normal?

In 2015 I liked a girl I met at youth group (her name is Tori) and my mom made fun of me. Once we were on a feild trip and I was like "hey mom, can you give me some gum?" she was like "why? so you can kiss Tori? lol." I was like "no i just want some gum" Also she kept saying stuff like "I know you're in love with her. I am not stupid." and she called our relationship a "love affair".

Now in 2016 we recently moved and I became friends with my new neighbor. her name is Maria. I have a platonic crush on her which is kind of awkward because I am 19 and she is way older than me (I dont know her age but she looks like she is in her late 40s). my mom sometimes makes fun of me because how much I like Maria, even though I specifically asked her not to do that. she says stuff like "you are in love with an old lady lol!" and when I go out wearing a cute outfit, sometimes my mom is like "Maria is going to think you're so cute! lol!"

I have also been getting physical therapy for my knees. I really like my physical therapist and my mom thinks its hilarious. I am worried my mom will find out I am attracted to my physical therapist and laugh at me.

Idk why my mom makes fun of me about who I like. Sometimes she doesnt, though. If I like a guy around my age who is single, she doesn't make fun of me. But that is rare.

This makes me want to keep my entire social life a secret from my mother, honestly. she is so annoying. i love my mom, but still.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I think your mom is being somewhat verbally abusive and that she's not funny. I also think that perhaps her comments are a result of and and attempt to lessen her own fears and discomfort about your feelings, but it's still inappropriate on her part.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Yeah, that's annoying. I've always kept my love interests a secret from my parents.
    But okay, you're in this situation now and you have to understand the reason why your mom thinks it's funny: It's because you get embarrassed by it. Either you could try telling her again in all seriousness that this makes you feel bad, or you could just flat out tell her: "Yes, I like her. So what?" No shame, no anger - Now it's not funny anymore.

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  • WinterStormGuy_Of_Feb9,1968
    7 years ago

    I think you should follow with what your heart says
    if you like Maria than follow things as they go, don't
    push things if your uncomfortable but go with the flow
    I've had 2 bisexual relationships when i was a teenager
    i will admit it was just sexual from age 13 to age 18
    and now i hate to be around men but i love having
    female friends now i believe i had some type of
    sexual abuse took place but i can't recall it i do
    have mental health illnesses so that can be mean
    something as well.

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  • WinterStormGuy_Of_Feb9,1968
    7 years ago

    I think you should be allowed to like who you
    want and i believe your mom is ridiculing you
    but I've learned to shut people off cause I
    refuse to fight back at bullies instead I
    pray that their life gets better.

    I'm a 48 year old male, i constantly get ridiculed for
    liking younger women or girls who are legal age ( 18)
    I'm always judged, hated on, one thing we gotta know
    is people will bully us when were dead and gone.

    My advice is to shut your mother off and ignore her
    if you like older women for dating or being friends
    I highly support you but on ground that I'm not one
    to judge others and I've learned one thing we gotta
    ignore haters, judgemental people cause if we let
    them get to us than we will be sick.

    Best Wishes

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Well, it's kinda adorbale when people are embarrassed about a crush, but of course she shouldn't be doing it anyway.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Keep her out of your business?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      So you think I should have kept my relationship with Tori a secret from my mother? That isn't practical or a realistic idea in my situation. my mom always went with me to youth group and she never let me be alone with Tori because she thought Tori would try to kidnap me. Also, Tori threw was excessively affectionate with me (lots of touching and verbal affection) whenever we had a conversation. I wouldnt want my mom to confuse it for sexual harrassment and cause drama at church. Anyway, we broke up.

      Also, I dont think it would be a good idea to keep my feelings for Maria a secret. my mom is always with me when I hang out with Maria. so if I tell Maria I like her, my mom will probably hear me anyway.

      I don't know what is going to happen with my physical therapist. I am attracted to her, but I am planning on keeping that a secret from my mom. my mom knows I want to be friends with my physical therapist, though.

      Its hard to keep my love life a secret from my mom because she wants to be with me almost 24/7

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        Well... clearly unless you have a time machine whats done is done but you can learn from it.

        Is there some reason you can't move away from her? Your romantic or personal life is none of your mothers business so why let it be?

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I reckon it's more likely she's embarrassed and can't handle the fact that you're growing up and having sexual attractions. It's none of her business and I agree with the advice above, that if you stop letting her know you're embarrassed she'll probably get sick of it and stop hassling you.

    She sounds like a very silly immature person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I made a comment on this post explaining why its hard for me to keep my love life a secret from my mother.

      Also, I dont tell my mom who I am sexually attracted to.

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