My mom lives in different country so that she can earn better?

She left me alone in the country when I was 18. I lived alone in a hostel next to my college. She gave me enough cash every month. She visited me once after 1 n half years for about one month. She promised me she would return in few months.

I counted each day for her. I was alone and depressed. My friends would go home in vacations while I would just cry alone. She would be too busy to answer my phone.

She has come back now, I am 20 now. She had told me (promised me) that she would now be with me and would never go back. But one week after staying here she has started crying that she can't find a job and that she has to pay off loans. She says she will GO BACK!!

This is killing me. I am feeling very sick and disgusted. She sees nothing wrong with leaving me alone for 2 more years. I am her only daughter and she is the only adult to take care of me.

I begged and I cried but she cried even more saying that she doesn't want to live a poor life here and that she prefers to live there.

She says I will anyway live in my hostel (as my college is in a different city) so its better she stays in that country where the lifestyle is better and where there's plenty of money.

If she stays here, she will have to work hard and stay in a very poor condition. But its not impossible. Its upto her.

But if she was here, I would meet here twice a month. And after my college got over in a year or so I would live with her.

But she calls our home hell and she is eager to go back to that country.

Is she right? Is this normal?

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Based on 73 votes (37 yes)
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Comments ( 12 )
  • joybird

    Think of the future. When you finish college you may be able to join her in that country and get a really good job. Then she would not have to work so hard and you two could be together. She is very lucky because most 20 year olds would not care about seeing their mums.

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  • Ur 20 years old grow up and if u miss her that much transfer to a college in the country where ur mom is. Dammmn

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  • dinz

    It's all about you you you.... haven't you thought about your mum?

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  • randomjelly

    I know you miss your mom...but she needs work and you need to realize that you are an adult now.

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  • *sigh..

    I dont get this... What are you complaining about? You're living the dream!!! :D

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  • AngAnders112

    you should save up and make plans to go visit her

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  • kyanviado

    Does she have a unknown boyfriend. It sounds like that you are not important

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  • frozenheart

    im 13 and my moms going to another country 'cause she has a rare blood disease and shes giving birth in a few months, the docters say that theres a chance she might not make it, I dont blame her, but i want her home, with me. I hope you know that your not alone, and it makes you feel better.

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  • alv1592

    just because she's far from you doesn't mean you can't still keep in touch. and, you should be taking care of yourself now. it's understood that you miss her, but you shouldn't need her to take care of you.

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  • MissClaire

    I lived alone right after high school, went to college while living on my own (I lived on one side of Canada; parents lived on the other side)- no financial help from them.... and I still loved my parents. Of course I didnt think it was their responsibility to care for me. It goes without saying that I missed them so they would visit me and I would visit them (when I could afford it).
    I'm not sure what part your more hurt over? If you just miss your mom, it is normal for sure, and I assume you miss her very much. Do you feel abandoned maybe? I hope you dont feel anger because you feel that she is supposed to be caring for you after 18.... but I cant really judge this since it depends on culture so much.
    I would focus on finding happiness on your own - you'll find it!

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  • Noonesperfect

    Your not a kid

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  • beearch

    You need to learn to stand on your own 2 feet. Your 20 for fucks sake.

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