My mom keeps forcing heteronormative bs on me

Never heard of or heteronormative word before 😄 you just can't easily say straight, huh?

Ugh! I hate it when parents do this. Unless we do something that’s harmful to our self or others, I don’t get why they have to expect us to be a certain way.

At least she hasn't disowned you or is actually like abusing you.

Sometimes soft-conservative parents just need to go through the motions a little. By that I mean seeing you consistently stick to your guns as LGBT, so they can realise it's just who you are and that you're not changing. My parents were like that about me being gay.

Give it some time. I know it's hard but it might have been a surprise that they have to get used to.

(Also I have politically incorrect opinions about this word "heteronormative", but this isn't the post)

What do you mean by "heteronormative" lol. Feel like you just made that word up, haha.

Am I right in thinking that you are a malcontent lesbian & she was expecting a straight daughter with a husband, kids & the rest of it?

Questions like this are why millenials are going nowhere.

haha! """Heteronormative BS""", it just keeps getting dumber and dumber out there.

F*ck that bitch

I would confront her on it, if I were you. I'm a confrontational person anyways, but I feel like in this situation it might be the only way to get her to shut up about it. Ask her what her problem is with it (and by extension, with you) and if she understands how that makes you feel. I normally wouldn't go for the touchy feely route but in this case I think it could be an effective method of giving her a guilt trip and making her feel bad about it. I would say something along the lines of "are you trying to make me feel like shit, because you're doing a great job if you are" and, "I was hoping that you would be supportive, but all you've done is make me feel worse about it and even more insecure than I already was". But for this to be effective you need to sound genuinely hurt by her feelings about it, which I imagine won't be hard considering that it really can be hurtful. You could also throw in something about how you wish you'd stayed in the closet because of her. This approach may be a bit manipulative but it could really help, depending on what kind of person she is. Best of luck, give us updates please!

It totally depends on your age. Sexuality develops throughout childhood, through the adolescent years and into adulthood. Ideally parents wouldn't encourage ANYTHING other than pure love and support through these formative years. It is hard for parents, or people in general, not to project their own values on their children though. Heteronorms biologically and socially have the easiest avenue for a happy family.

Damn, I'm sorry you're going through this problem! My stupid ex's sister and brother-in-law did that bullshit with their one daughter who is lesbian. I never got to talk too much to his sister about it, but I think it was very invalidating and has fucked her up a lot. They were basically telling her that all that mattered about her was
her femininity and sexual persuasion by focusing so much on such a small part of who she is. She's kinda butch, and doesn't seem to care about anything, but her lovelife. However, I think her parents caused her to turn out that way. It's sad.

I sincerely hope with all my heart and soul that you are doing well! No one should be so narrowly defined as be defined only by his or her, sexual preference, conformation to gender roles and relationship status. Don't let them break you, and remember that you are more than what they see or think you are!

Parents. However, you haven't given her side or direct quotes from her, so I don't know who's in the wrong.

How is that hetero normative?

Oh lord..grow up a little bit and realise how foolish you sound..