My mom is crazy.

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I've been fighting with my mom for the past 2 months. My dad left a few months ago and told us he was going on a trip... Long story short, he never came back. My mom has put a lot of stress on herself because of this. At first she was blaming herself but as time passed, she began to blame me and my little brother. My little brother is only 13 and he shouldn't have to hear his own mother call him a, "bastard" and a "demon". I'm 19 so I'm fine with whatever the crazy bitch does but I've been saving up to leave. Problem is I don't want to leave my bro with her. One night, she came home at 1 am drunk and woke him up out of his sleep. I woke up to his screaming and when I ran to his room, I saw my mom swatting him with a ruler on his bare back. She took his shirt off and had him put his hands on the wall while she slashed him on the back. His back was so red and had welts all over. I was so angry, I pushed her off and packed some of his clothes and drove him to my aunts. He's staying with her for now and my mom is going berserk.

I'm still at home and she won't stop trying to get into my room. For the last hour she's been at my door, yelling and crying. I don't want to get out because I'm scared of her, she's saying some fucked up things rn. I'm just waiting till she calms down so I can go stay at my friends. Either way, I'm almost done saving and once I am, I'm taking my bro with me. I will fight for custody if she tries to take him away from me. I'm just sick of her and my stupid dad... They had their own issues so why do they bring us into it?

I want to know if this is a good move for our future. Because I still love my mom and don't want her to become suicidal if me and my brother leave her too.

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Jo_

8 years ago

Moving is a good idea. I don't know much about custody but I would try to get your mum some help. Meaby a docter/psychologist, something to help her get over this. But don't let her near your little brother, not until she can think straight again anyways. I'm sorry you have to go through this, if you have more questions don't hesitate, ask away and I'll see how I can help. Good luck moving!

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fusionboy13

8 years ago

This is serious , you need to go to the police and report her for child abuse and inappropriate behavior and involve the child services incase you can get custody for your brother . Im pretty sure your dad had a serious reason to leave even tho he didnt take you two with him .

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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  OP has already said she doesn't want to involve child services and given very good reasons why. How on earth do you know why the father left and it's irrelevant anyway, he's an arsehole to abandon his family with no explanation.
  
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flamer180

8 years ago

You can try to talk to your mom and try to help her solve her problems.
I know it may sound crazy with the way she is acting, but since you love her, you can try to at least help her if you want.

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- Fenrirr
  
  8 years ago
  
  Talking to a crazy bitch wont solve their craziness unless she goes to the mental hospital. I say move far away from her.
  
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Thorolf

8 years ago

You need to get yourself and your brother away from that woman unless you want the guy to be scarred permanently.

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showmedicks

8 years ago

Shoot your mom and tell the police you did it in self defense

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Canadianwalrus

8 years ago

You need to get you and your brother safe first. Once y'all are stable then y'all can work out your mothers issues.

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BlackyHancock

8 years ago

You should move. There is no reasoning with crazy people or drunk people. Get as far away as possible and have nothign to do with them if that's possible.

Some people shouldn't have children.

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BookLover

8 years ago

I say move away. Have a close family member check up on her for a while see if she calms down. If she calms down then maybe look into getting a therapist for her. If she doesn't calm down then... well I havnt thought that far yet sorry.

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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  Just how do you get a therapist for someone else?
  
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  - BookLover
    
    8 years ago
    
    well don't you have some say in it as your her child?
    
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    - Ellenna
      
      8 years ago
      
      I'm not OP so it's not my mother who's mistreating her children.
      
      Therapists wouldn't waste their time seeing someone who hasn't asked to see them, why would they? The only way OP could have her mother treated psychiatrically would be to try and have her certified and that's a very drastic step to take with all sorts of possible nasty repurcussions, including forcible institutionalisation.
      
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      - BookLover
        
        8 years ago
        
        Oh ok then.
        
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Wolverine99

8 years ago

that's a huge turn on that she's into dominatrix role play, and i'm really curious about what he did to deserve to get the 40 lashes like christ, but hearing her yell and pound on the door like that reminds me of my childhood and i would probably beat her to death and run away... :)

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Myghoul2099

8 years ago

wow, she must really love your dad to discipline him like that in front of the whole family. i'm actually getting jealous of him just reading this... can you imagine the amount of dominance she's expressing over him by carving his back up like that??? that's fucking hot and i want to be your new dad now.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

Can you both stay with your aunt or another responsible adult for a while to have a break from this awful situation? You shouldn't have to put up with this and you have my admiration for being far more responsible and grown up than your mother is.

She may be heartbroken over your father's desertion of his family but that is no excuse to take it out on her kids. It doesn't sound as if talking to her reasonably when she's sober and hopefully calmer will do any good and if I were you I wouldn't even try until you've got yourself and your brother out of there.

I understand your reluctance to involve child protection bc it could well result in your brother ending up in foster care or an institution.

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mysistersshadow

8 years ago

You probly can't get custody maybe get child protective services involved.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  No way, I've had family members get taken away from CPS and get abused. I don't trust that horrible crap.
  
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  - Cigsznass
    
    8 years ago
    
    She obviously knows very little about CPS....after all, she lives in her sisters shadow.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Exactly, thank you.
      
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  - mysistersshadow
    
    8 years ago
    
    Abused like beaten with a ruler? Pretty much guarantee you won't get custody and certainly not without a documented reason like CPS could give. But whatever you asked for ideas
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Firstly, search up documentaries on CPS and see how much injust goes on behind the scenes. CPS and CAS are all horrible organizations. Not for every case but for my cousins. They were placed in both and they were abused even worse then they ever were at home.
      
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- Cigsznass
  
  8 years ago
  
  Get ▂▃▄▅▆▇█▓▒░my ANAL ZONE's shadow░▒▓█▇▆▅▄▃▂ involved.
  
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