My mom disrespected my boyfriend's mom

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Hi everyone. New here. Came here for advice. I've been in a relationship with a very loving man for about 8 1/2 months. Things couldn't be better, except that my mom disrespected both me and my boyfriend's mom. It was brought to my knowledge the other night that my mom has been talking badly about my boyfriend's mom. Of course, this got back to her and to my boyfriend. I feel that she disrespected both me and his mother by doing so. What i'm truly worried about though, is my boyfriend being offended by this and it ruining our relationship. While we are both adults and our moms really shouldn't influence our relationship, I still feel that my mother not liking his mother will cause problems for us.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    Thanks for the additional details.

    Unfortunately, your mom was just "talking shit". All types of people do it. I would just let your mom know you don't like the fact that her statements are creating a tense environment for your relationship for both your boyfriend and his family. Ask her to tone it down and to stop, for your sake if none other. There is a time to call a truce, and that time is now. Her talking is not doing anything productive, and you feel it as a blockade between you being able to move forward in your relationship. Could you imagine trying to marry your boyfriend? What would the moms do and say? You don't need this kind of pressure, especially when her shit talking is unecessary to anything. Her talking does not make her a more efficient worker or make her bar look better; it just makes her look petty and jealous. Tell her your side. Good luck and keep us posted.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    my mom works at a bar, and my boyfriend's family happens to own a bar that's a little further down the street from the one where my mother works. my mom was tellin the people at the bar she works at that my boyfriend's mom's bar is dirty and falling apart and that she doesn't know how to run a business and that she'd be better to sell her liquor license to her.

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    • TheSecret
      11 years ago

      that sucks that your boyfriends mom found out. I'd be pissed.

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    Tell your mom to grow up.

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  • stealinsugars
    13 years ago

    Two thumbs up for Harry's advice. It is very immature of your mother to talk behind someone's back. Let her deal with it.

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  • anya07
    13 years ago

    Talk to her of course your boyfriend will be offended but I dont think it will ruin your relationship.Talk to your mom and explain to her that its your choice even if she doesnt like your bf or his mom she should respect them for you

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    13 years ago

    Should we bring in Jerry Springer?

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    why doesnt your mother like his mother? what was said and what was the reasoning behind it?

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  • harrypotters
    13 years ago

    If your boyfriend is smart he will know you dont share the same opinion, and not blame you for it. So it shouldn't impact on your relation ship like you said you are both adults so let them sort it out between themselves dont get dragged in.

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