My life will end tomorrow and i'm so scared.

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I am a really shy girl. In my early twenties and I've been like this my whole life, I was badly bullied so I think that made me worst. I never really opened up I had friends here and there and all the best friends I made left or moved away. After school I lost contact with all my friends. I never really spoke much, didn't have confidence or anything. I hit the age where everyone goes out but I never until I was 21, then I don't much now. I have a few friends here and there they all have partners so it isn't ideal to be meeting up all the time.
I still like to stay in. I also have started to push myself and if I'm invited out I'll go and try it something new I'll try it. But often I don't like it or there's too many people and I don't know how to make new friends or even talk or look at strangers is hard I'm always wondering what will they think of me? I'm I introverted?
Anyway my sister is a hairdresser and I'm panicking cause she's invited me out with all her work and all her works family, I know none of them I'm already overthinking and wondering what I can say or ask so I don't sit there shy and silent waiting for someone to ask me something. Why do I overthink? I'm so worried about it and I don't even know why? I'm pushing myself to go though. Any advice on how to talk to a load of people who are good at talking and in the complete opposite would be nice. Like I'll be glad when I'm back at home really. Why am I like this?

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    Because you live inside your head. You need to break down your ego or you'll live a miserable and lonely life. Conversations aren't that difficult, so long as you don't overthink them.

    Ask about them and their work, and take a genuine interest. Have something to say about what you do and what your interests are. But mostly, just encourage them to talk and don't be negative.

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    • littledebbieshoe
      7 years ago

      Conversations are very difficult if one has social anxiety, which someone has never experienced social and is not introverted will not be able to understand ones situation.

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      • bubsy
        7 years ago

        Conversation is a skill that can be trained the same as any. The way to reduce anxiety is to get better at it. Introverts can be very social-they just need time to cool down afterwards. Conversations are thrilling and introverts just burn out sooner.

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        • littledebbieshoe
          7 years ago

          ok cool man, I don't see what that has to do with my comment but cool

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          • bubsy
            7 years ago

            It has to do with social anxiety and introversion not being excuses, but obstacles to overcome.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You're not just overthinking but over dramatizing, judging by the wording of your question.

    You need to find a way to retrain your brain to stop wasting your life on this bullshit: I suggest Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

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  • Goku19
    7 years ago

    If you think logically, new people will need to know about you and you will want to know about them as well. After exchanging this basic information you can talk on random topics and happenings. No need to panic as your sister will be there.

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  • littledebbieshoe
    7 years ago

    Hi,
    I have had experiences similar to yours, but they are not as serious. I am an extrovert with social anxiety. You cure social anxiety immedietly and there is no medication to cure it. You just gotta work on it over time and set small goals for yourself.
    Start off small
    for example
    "Today at this get together, i am going to ask at least one question or say hello to one person."
    Over time just bumb up
    It has helped me but I still get anxiety when I go into stores and busy places.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    I've got friends I'm comfortable with. I have no idea who these 10 people are, lots of strangers in a pub isn't my idea of fun. But if I sit there in silence I'll look a fool, but then again when someone new joins a group they're usually quiet at the start.
    I hope they make the effort to ask me questions.

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  • satanniggasandpopsicle
    7 years ago

    awww

    n your setting your standards too high :) haha

    you dont have to talk to everyone and you dont have to be a expert at talking

    start off slow. you dont have to talk much if you dont want to. just do whatever makes you feel comfortable

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