My kids don't believe in santa claus

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My oldest came home from school one day asking about some guy named "Santa Claus" and I told her that he was some lie told to children about some guy who comes into childrens' houses on christmas and leaves them presents. I don't want my kids to believe in Santa Claus because A) I work hard to get them presents every year and I want to be appreciated for it, not some fairytail character B), I don't want to have to compete with said fairytail character, and C) I don't want them up at night waiting him to "land on the roof" and catch me lying to them

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Rofl...your intimidated by someone who isn't real! im sorry but that made me laugh.
    Are you insecure?
    Christmas isn't about making sure you get credit...as long as the kids are happy who cares who gets credit.

    My mom never lied and nether do I...
    I was told as a child he is real if you believe...my mom still wont tell you if you ask her she just says..." as long as you believe. " and thats what I say too.

    In my family only whatever is in the stocking ...and one unwrapped gift left out on Christmas eve is from santa...everything else is from other people....thats just tradition.

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    • thegypsysailor
      9 years ago

      I'm with you. Letting kids be kids and keeping their imaginations alive and vivid for as long as possible was very important to me as a parent. They'll be faced with the harsh realities of the world (like mommy had to work her ass off to buy the presents), soon enough. Even cookies and milk by the fireplace, for the jolly fat guy in red!

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Yes! Its such a joy to bake the cookies with my daughter then we decide what flavor of milk to leave out...like chocolate or strawberry.

        I just remember waking up early ...its still dark...coming downstairs and looking around the tree as it seemed to explode with more gifts ...the lights...to me it just filled me up with so much joy and wonder at how magical the room looked.
        I strive every year to create that same magical look every year for my daughter.

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        • thegypsysailor
          9 years ago

          Wow, how nice to know there are still a few good mothers out there. Magical; great word for it all.

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          • reminiscent
            9 years ago

            ♡ yes
            to me the magic doesnt lie in that room anymore when I was young....its in the look on my daughters face as she experiences it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't think Christmas is about material things. I think it's about being with family and celebrating the birth of Christ (if you're into that sort of thing). I get my children Christmas presents because i want them to be happy but at the same time, i want them to appreciate not the material things, but the people who worked hard to bring them those things.

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        It just seems like you care way too much about who gets the credit. To me its filled with magic and wonder...santa clause is part of that magic and wonder...I wouldn't want to stomp out any magic for my daughter.

        You also need to be careful telling your daughter this stuff as she may repeat it to other children and other parents might get upset...so maybe let her know not to ruin that for other kids.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Telling children that whatever they choose to believe makes it true IS A LIE! Get real ... do you read "The Secret" to them at bedtime too?

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        He is real if you believe. .. he lives in your heart as a child...and in our imaginations.
        also he was based on a real person so... *shrugs*

        Also no I havent read the book ether.
        right now im reading various Christmas stories at bed time.

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        • Ellenna
          9 years ago

          Believing in something doesn't make it real and nothing lives in my heart except blood. Oh I do have a stent in one of the arteries but that's a scientific (and life-saving) fact, not imaginary. Our imaginations are formed by what we learn from people around us, which doesn't make anything we imagine real. Imagination is a wonderful thing as imagination and reality is a wonderful thing as reality, but they're not the same thing.

          Not much difference between xmas stories and the secret, except the latter is directed at adults, and is based on the theory that anyone can have whatever they want if they believe it strongly enough. Yeah, right ........

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          • reminiscent
            9 years ago

            Lol...your too literal as a person.
            and you cant have your reality as you know it without imagination...as im sure it took some to make your stent.

            There is nothing wrong with imagination or imagined people created in such a realm as they come to life in the pages of a book or the telling of a story.
            And like I said before Santa Claus as we know him today was based on a real person...just made up stories and events.

            Im guessing you just dont like any fiction? Or you seem not to based on what you said so far.

            It probably does take a good amount of belief to succeed in your goals...as much as it takes hard work.
            So I would say no you cant sit around on your couch wishing for something....but if you believe in yourself and that you can do it...while also working towards whatever it is you want...then yes you can have what you want.
            if you dont believe in yourself your probably going to fail.

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            • Ellenna
              9 years ago

              I didn't say there was anything wrong with imagination, as long as we know it's imagination, and I still feel that telling children that imaginary beings are real is lying. With my daughter and later with grandchildren and other kids I've had contact with, I tell them what is a "story" and what is true and they do know the difference. I also made it clear that the ads on television are lies to get you to buy things.

              I do enjoy fiction, in fact I write fiction, but I know the difference between it and fact.

              If you really believe that "you can have what you want" in all circumstances then you are living in a fantasy world: not everyone gets what they want no matter how hard they work for it.

              I do agree that self-belief is important to achieve goals, but the goals need to be realistic - ie, not imaginary. In case I'm still not making myself clear, it wouldn't matter how much I believed I could climb Mt Everest or become a world famous ballet dancer. neither of those things are in fact possible for me in my state of ill-health and at my age.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It's stupid to lie to children like we do in today's culture.
    When I was a child, I pretended to believe in Santa because it seemed to make the adults happy but it also made me feel like they were a little weird or just kind of dumb.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    What a horrible reason to give gifts, to get credit for it? I bet you are the type of parent who puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on your kids. Personally, I just want mine to be happy. And magic makes kids happy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't give my kids presents just so I can get credit for it. I do it to make them happy. I just want to be appreciated for the hard work I did to make them happy. I also want them to view Christmas as a meaningful day that you spend with meaningful people. Not the sad, commercialized mess it is today.

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      • howaminotmyself
        9 years ago

        I don't give gifts to be appreciated. That's emotional blackmail. I hope my kids never feel that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I agree. If i were to have kids I wouldn't lie to them either. I always have thought of those things as lies too. I don't really understand the purpose of teaching something that isn't real. It is brainwashing just like religion and politics.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    Children should learn that nothing in this world is free and that everything has consequences.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    Bloody idiotic

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  • KeddersPrincess
    9 years ago

    Before we had religion arguments, we had arguments on whether or not Santa Claus was real.

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    I completely agree with you!

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  • FishBoJimEr
    9 years ago

    When they are old enough to realize that Santa Claus is not real, they will know that all the presents were from you.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    When my daughter was small I didn't directly tell her that Santa Claus was or wasn't real, but I did tell her that Mums and Dads had to pay for the presents.

    And of course she eventually heard things from older kids and asked me if he was real and I told her no, it was just a story ....... same thing I told her about god, jesus, racism, sexism, homophobia etc, that some people believe it but I don't.

    And another of course - of course kids are going to love xmas because they get presents! Doesn't mean it's based on anything more than capitalism's appropriation and distortion of mythology.....and don't get me started on easter and valentines day.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That's an interesting explanation, wish i'd thought of it

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  • Ilovecocaine
    9 years ago

    couldnt santa clause get arrested for breaking into people's houses at night

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    If this works for your family cool.

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  • dickwashington
    9 years ago

    how old are you kids? i personally really loved the whole santa thing when i was little. but it didn't change anything when i found out when he wasn't real. how did your kid not know who santa was in the first place?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      My oldest is five, my youngest is three. They don't know simply because i never told them.

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