My infj personality destroying my life?

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Hi, i am an INFJ personality type, ever since, i have been different than everyone else which lowered my self confidence, many people hate INFJ's and i feel really bad about it, since there is only 1-2% of the population with this personality im affraid that i will never get anywhere in life (because i am very shy) i know im not alone and that there is still people on this Earth that has my personality type which makes me feel comfortable, but because of this i am very stressed in life, i have acne which is caused because of my colosal stress i have everytime, everytime i try to get a job people look at me wiredly because i enjoy nothing most people like, for e.g. Senter of attention, parties, i am very quite etc. i know this is very long to read but i need help, how can i feel confident again and reduce my stress i have? Thank you for your time. (If you dont know what INFJ personality is search it up)

Do meditation 4
Distract yourself 3
Who cares? Just carry on with life and enjoy yourself 25
Live away from those places and move to a quite place like a village 4
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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    I think you need to pay less attention to being shoved into one of sixteen groups that is meant to account for the personalities of billions of people. Just be you.

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    • seekelp
      9 years ago

      Yeah, those categories have no real basis in anything, they're just some unproven categories that some dickhead came up with with no real basis.

      Worried about being shy? Work on being outgoing. Very little about anyone's personality is set in stone.

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      • Shrunk
        9 years ago

        Lol people seem to misunderstand the whole MBTI thing. It's not saying there are only 16 different personalities in the world. they are just very broad categories. the letters have to do with things such as preferred methods of socializing, perception of surroundings, work ethic and that sort of thing. when there is only 2 sides of a spectrum, it's likely that everyone will be more to one side than the other. It's no different than categorizing someone as "shy", in fact that's what the first letter is about. Also I'm not saying it's any more than just a theory, but I think you (and anyone else that totally rejects the idea that people can be categorized) are being a little harsh...

        that said, the OP shouldn't put that much importance on the MBTI results. I think it's more supposed to help in understanding how one's mind works and how to get the best out of life situations, not to limit oneself...

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        • seekelp
          9 years ago

          "when there is only 2 sides of a spectrum"

          I'd argue that there aren't in this case.

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          • Shrunk
            9 years ago

            which case?

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            • seekelp
              9 years ago

              The one we're discussing. Attempting to reduce abstract concepts to qualitative spectrums is an empty goal.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      9 years ago

      REAL TALK.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Yes!

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I'm an ENFJ/INFJ and I just learned how to talk to people. You're supposed to be a problem solver. Learn some skills and put them to good use for those around you. Learn diplomacy. Learn about social psychology. Identify the issue and fix it. What about you pisses people off? Figure it out and change it.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I think you should meditate. It's a wonderful stress reliever and mind clearer. And, you need to stop caring about the group you belong too. Don't let it rule your life. Then again, you might benefit to move to a little village and live a life that is simpler and quieter. My mother is actually in this group and I think she would benefit more if she lived in a village.

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    • Sam68
      9 years ago

      Thank you for your comment :)

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        You're welcome. :)

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  • cupcake_wants
    9 years ago

    Non intuitive types aren't going to suggest meditation because simply they are not intuitive. Most people don't embrace that part of themselves; I am intuitive and I say you ought to get some amethyst crystal for meditation. It's cheap to buy. Also, if you go into a metaphysical shop, a lot of times the hippie/smoke shops have it too and handle the stones and you can figure out if any really call out to you. Watch this for more information about crystals: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoUOn4Vbrz0

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      A rock from the side of the road will work as well if you believe in it

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      • k10101010101010101010
        9 years ago

        I heard you have a really tight asshole. i could loosen that up for you.

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        • Ellenna
          9 years ago

          Join the queue

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Since I have no idea what a INFJ personality, I guess I cannot contribute anything to this thread other than to show my ignorance.

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    • Sam68
      9 years ago

      INFJ is a personality type, the people who are INFJ are very shy, hate attention, prefers to read a book instead of going to a party, loves nature and animals, we also imagine alot, i hope this helps :)

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Thanks.

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        That sounds like me.

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  • Legion
    9 years ago

    I am an Intj myself.

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  • noid
    9 years ago

    You might like the book The Highly Sensitive Person. Lots of good coping info in there.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Since E doesn't like I,
    S doesn't like N,
    T doesn't like F,
    and J doesn't like P,

    you'll have to learn diplomacy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Ive taken that test several times with different results everytime. I seem to be in the middle of everything. I dont think that test tells much because they try to polarize traits that someone can have both of.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Ha, that's what I get whenever I do ANY of those tests - I'm always in the middle too or I get totally different results if I do them on different days.

      Load of rubbish in my opinion, about as useful as astrology, but then I hate being labelled or put into any convenient little compartment, must be the Anarchist in me

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    I just did the personality type test and I am INFJ too. You're not alone!

    Famous INFJs include: Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa, Nicole Kidman, Jimmy Carter, Mel Gibson.

    http://www.16personalities.com/

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    • Sam68
      9 years ago

      Wow, good to know :)

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