My in-laws only call my husband's cell phone.....

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As the title says, my in-laws only call my husband's personal cell phone.

Fine if they just have a quick question or whatever....but ALL the time??

I know they don't like me, which is fine, I don't like them either....however-important factor-, we all had a long talk a while back and put our disagreements in the past (or so I thought). They insist nothing's up but it's obvious that they're avoiding talking to me by only calling his cell phone. ALSO, we have children, and they never call the house to talk to the kids either, although they say they love them and miss them (which I believe, however my children don't understand).

Another factor-he didn't have a personal cell phone until just recently. Before he got the phone, they'd NEVER call. Since he got the phone, they text and call him all the time. So it certainly appears to me that they are definitely avoiding me, and have been for a loooong time.

It's not that I WANT to talk to them, it's more about them being obviously shifty and lying about things being OK between us, and I also don't think it's right for them to ignore everyone else in the family so blatantly.

Anyway, is this normal for in-laws to do?

Any insight? What to do? Because I'm really pissed off at this point, and I'm about to tell them if they can't call the house phone, then they can't talk to my husband either as far as I'm concerned, and believe me, I can make that happen (done it before).

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Congratulations!! You have achieved what it's taken me 23 years to manage!

    OK it's like this - they only love him. That's it!

    They don't care about your kids or you - simple.

    So get on with your life with your kids and let your poor husband suffer his parents on his own :o) You don't need to stop him speaking to them, all you need to do is ask him NOT to tell you what rubbish they're spouting.

    Don't let this cause any problems between you, your husband or their kids, coz then the in-laws win. At the moment, they only think they're winning - but you are the one who's succeeding in getting peace.

    I had to be downright rude to get my in-laws out of my life and to phone my husband on his cell phone :o) Men can 'switch off' to their parents and not be so emotional so be happy that he's the poor sucker that has to deal with them, and not you.

    This is the best thing they can ever do for you - celebrate it!!!

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    If I were you? I'd be ecstatic.
    I can't stand my Mother-in-law. She is a condescending Mormon woman that does darn near everything that she tells me not to do. I was so fucking confused for the longest time. My husband pays her no mind. He literally has made an art form of tuning her out. I'll hear her speak to him and he won't even notice - WHAT A GIFT!

    Then I spoke to her other children. Apparently she really is just fucking crazy. Nothing my husband can do about it. But crazy enough to leave me alone? Not a chance.

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  • The_foz
    12 years ago

    By the sounds of it you're better off not having to talk to them, since you don't really want to anyway.
    This is fairly common, they're the ones with the problem, and it's their loss not talking to you, not your loss.
    Just make sure it doesn't get in the way of your marriage.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    damm.. Well i gues is normal. Who doesnt have issues with their in laws.. ? U say u dont like them so isnt better for u because u wont have talk to them?

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  • underager
    12 years ago

    You don't really have an inlaw problem. I know it seems that way. But your problem is actually YOUR HUSBAND. He should be sticking up for you - his wife, the woman he chose to be the mother of his children.

    Any man who puts mommy before his own wife and kids has serious issues.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Your so lucky .. I wish my monster in law would avoid me like the plague cause I seriously can't stand her living here with us in our house ..

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    He shouldn't of given them his number or he should change it... Or maybe he shouldn't have it all? It seems to me that it would be better if they were avoided. They seem a bit crazy bad:/ poor you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Wow the last paragraph of your post confirmed what I had been suspecting from the start. They dont like you because you are a giant controlling bitch. No wonder they dont want to talk to you. Hopefully your husband finds his balls, that you obviously took from him somehow, and gets the hell out of this situation. What kind of idiot husband lets his wife dictate who he talks to, especially pertaining to his own family. Maybe he deserves a cunt like you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I can see how you'd get that impression from that paragraph, but the truth is, it's nothing like that. I don't want to go into all the details, but to briefly explain it, they are professional con artists. I didn't know this for a few years, and when I found out I was shocked, disgusted and angry. I immediately confronted them when I found out what was going on and what they were up to, and naturally they began to dislike me because I wasn't OK with what they were doing and am literally one of maybe 2 or 3 people who have EVER called them out on their bad behavior and refuse to be buffaloed by them. My husband and I talked it over and decided together that we didn't want them in our lives, so we both stopped talking to them all together as we decided that was best. A while down the road, they basically begged to get back in touch with us, so I agreed after a while, and after a long talk. Now it's getting bad again, and they're acting strange again, which is why I am pissed off at the situation and am about to bring up ceasing communication again.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Well now that you elaborated somewhat I can temper my original assessment.

        I dont like con artists or bullshitters myself, I always get the feeling that they think I am too stupid to realize that what they are telling me is complete and utter nonsense and they think that I actually believe that they met the President and had lunch with him or something.

        People like that have massive insecurity themselves and seek to manipulate the world around them in an effort to counteract that insecurity.

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  • GuessWho
    12 years ago

    Sounds like they are the type of people that won't bother calling at all if it can be avoided. They only call his cell phone because they know they can get hold of him whenever they want. They just won't make the effort to talk to anyone else. What miserable people they are.
    My parents only call my cell if no-one answers the home phone.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    oh p.s. If u made just this account just to ask this question on this and u want some real feedback? I think u come to wrong place. Mostly all users in this site are teenagers. So we dont have much experince with in laws troubles lol. Just saying.

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