My husband says i shouldn't do volunteering?

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I'm sorry you're married to such a selfish person when you're obviously a generous person. Ignore him and hopefully he'll get used to you helping others, even if he doesn't want to.

ur husband is a selfish person.

I understand the “if you’re good at something never do it for free” argument but the whole point of volunteering is to help people and organisations less able to pay for things. It’s about compassion not profit. If all he sees is “the bottom line” that says a lot about his character, none of it good.

Being money-oriented is sensible but there comes a point where you need to stop being selfish or you’ll end up alone.

You could try to turn it into a date night type of thing? Do it together? Most of the basic volunteering my gf and I do is together.

It sounds like he’s a bit uncomfortable with his finances, bills might hurt a bit so he’s lashing out at the thought of doing anything for “free”

He sounds like a dick.

He sounds very cold and harsh honestly, no offence but he's got a miserable way of thinking tbh. I don't know how rich you are but if you think you're doing ok, then you're probably living the dream life compared to some of the people you'd be helping. I'd definitely go for it. Not only will you be making life better for some desperate people/animals, but it is a way you can focus on helping your family anyway. It will give your kids a wonderful role model to look up to and teach them some important values about helping people, much more so than just giving them a lecture ever could. That'll stick with them for the rest of their life.

Maybe try getting him into volunteering? Maybe the dopamine produced from helping others will change his mind. You should do volunteering especially now and in summer, as animals need the most help then and there.

TL;DR: volunteer and try to get him to volunteer as well.

Instead of volunteering why not try and get payed employment with this type of work, although I understand aged care rather employ men then women.

Some people thrive in positions of service. Some do not understand. I love the idea of doing things to benefit the community. A strong community benefits all, not just a few. It can be hard to understand when you are told the poor don't deserve it as if help is only given to those who don't actually need it. But it is far from childish.

If he's going to work to pay for everything why don't you get a job and help out!

That is very very selfish of him, always help other people if you can

Help your family if you need to fulfill your selfish desire to feel good about yourself.

I think it depends.

I get both sides honestly

Your husband sounds like a selfish arsehole, but at the end of the day he is your husband, you agreed to marry him so you should do as he says.