My husband has a "need" to develop crushes at work. what should i do?

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My husband did not tell me he began working with an attractive young woman. He did not tell me, and I found out through a friend. He has a history of a "need" to develop crushes at work. When he does this, he puts me as 2nd best, can't have an orgasm with me, and is very distant.
I usually do not find out about the crushes until after they have run the course, usually the girl leaves. We went through counseling and he swore he would never again hide a woman from me who he is working with. We have a good relationship other than this and get along well. What should I do?

Forgive him and give him another chance 2
Go back to counseling 8
He will never change, leave and don't look back 19
Other 4
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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    im staying out of this

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    Hit the road OP and dont you come back no more, no more, no more.....

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  • Beeswaxsmith
    8 years ago

    Hone, he has a bad chance of changing. I suggest that you leave him and never look back before he hurts you even more.

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  • handsignals
    8 years ago

    Give him a blowjob before work or get him jerk off so he's not so pre occupied.

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  • Darktown
    8 years ago

    Its not his fault they have hot bitches where he works. If you care that much then tell him to get a different job

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I'm a little confused here. First you say that, "When he does this, he puts me as 2nd best, can't have an orgasm with me, and is very distant.", but soon after you say, "I usually do not find out about the crushes until after they have run the course".
    If he's being very distant you can't tell? Your story just does not make any sense to me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yes that is confusing. What I meant is that I sense he has a crush because of his behavior while it is going on, but he refuses to admit it until the girl leaves.

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