My girlfriend revealed a secret...

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Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for a few years now. We love eachother more than anything, however a few months ago she revealed a secret about her past. A boy in her old high school class raped her. When she told me it tore my heart into pieces. It wasnt the fact that someone took her innocence, or that she wasnt open to start with. It's just the fact that I really feel helpless. I dont want to tell the police as she just wants to forget it. I know she isnt making it up, I know when she lies and when she looked me in the eyes and told me i saw it was the truth. I love this girl with all my heart but i dont know what to do. Im in desperate need of help...

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  • underage93
    13 years ago

    i my self am in her shoes 2 days after my 16th birthday i was raped. all you can really do in comfort her, and when she needs to talk, listen. and do not say i know how you feel that will piss her off more than anything.. just listen... be there for her..

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    That a&@ needs to pay. Either do it your self or have her press charges. Just don't let him go free.

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  • jimdog
    13 years ago

    Buy a SOG combat knife off the internet and go and cut his dick off put it up his arse then hack his head off.

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  • Whitneyhouston
    13 years ago

    Kill him on site.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    just comfort her for a day, and then pretend like she never told you.

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  • luckynj
    12 years ago

    She needs your sympathy. Just comfort her and forget it. If she wants to charge that bad guy then help her.
    Luckynj

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  • Kingcae199
    13 years ago

    Find the bastard and batter him kick the crap out of him!!!!

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  • redpizzi
    13 years ago

    Nothing you can do. If she wants to leave it then leave it. Bring it up in your anger and frustration will make things worse and will eventually pull you apart. Just be a great partner to her and make sure she is loved. Nothing more you can do to the slimeball now with risking your relationship. But if you did bump into him. Punch his head in.

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  • amessage22
    13 years ago

    Thank you for being so sensitive to her about this. I am sure it must be awful. I don't know what it must feel like for either of you but I would say just be there for her when she needs someone to talk to about this. If she wants counseling for it, then encourage her with that. But let her call the shots.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Male partners of rape victims almost always report feeling helpless. It strikes at the old stereotype that we are the protector. Outside of murder, rape is perhaps the worst crime that can be perpetuated against a woman. And there's really nothing you can do about it. It's entirely normal for that situation to make you feel helpless. The only way you can help is to be understanding, caring and put her first.

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  • joelsmo
    13 years ago

    Do nothing. If you love her than forget about it. I know that you would love to go beat the living hell out of this guy but it's too late for that. She made her choices years ago. It's a difficult thing to forget but you need to go on just like before. Of course if you happen to run into this guy in a dark alley sometime....

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