My girlfriend parents are to strict.
Note: I am 28 yrs old and my girlfriend is 24 yrs old. I am currently in the Air Force stationed in Missouri and she lives in Orlando, Fl. we met online while i went to visit my family in Florida.
Me and my girlfriend met online and we had coffee one day in Starbucks. then we went on a few dates and it was the best thing that could have happened to me. understand i am 28 years old, have always been focused on my career, never even thought of marrying another girl, and never had kids. but with her i feel like i want it all with her. unfortunately her parents are very strict and to the point where its unfair. we have been dating for about 8 months and keep in mind she allready graduated with here bachelors, has her own car she bought!, is a complete adult 24!!!!!!!!!!!!yrs old, and has a career at sea world with the park manager. shes a wonderful person and i love her. and all we do is talk about marriage and how we want to live together and be with each other. i went to visit her 3 times already during a 6 months period and honestly i didn't mind it ... but being in the military we have to make plans off ahead of time and sometimes we can't leave when ever we like because of manning or just period bc of the mission. it got to the point where we spoke about getting married and we were planning late November around December. she wants a wedding and her dad to walk her down the aisle which i want her to have but sometimes i feel like she is doing that because thats what her parents want. so we spoke to their parents about marriage and the plans and her parents literally said "no" your not getting married for another year. I spoke to her and said love this isn't easy because i cant come over there all the time. so i said "ok" lets make this easier since you want your wedding and your parents dont want us married soon then lets make the effort to visit each other. ill go over there maybe twice and you can come over here once... just enought where we can see each and build our relationship, relationships are built on memories, love, and experiences with each other. LONG DISTANCE ISN'T EASY AND IT REQUIRES BOTH PARTIES TO DO THEIR PART" so she said ok love sure on aug 30 ill go over and visit you, so she bought the tickets and when she told her parents they went completely psycho and basically said no!!!!!!!!!! if you go you will leave this house for good. so as good boyfriend i told her i would give her 900 dollars a month and that i would for sure find her a place till she feel comfortable marrying me and leaving. aug 30 was close and she didn't feel at all like she was coming... so i did what a respectful man would do, call them and try to communicate like an adult. i called the mother and she yelled saying "i can't basically take her daughter away" and when i spoke to the father he literally said no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i had plans that cost me a good amount of money.. because i had a proposal set up. it all went out the window!!!!!!!!!!! she was devastated when i told her the plans i had. came aug 30 she never came and left me hanging. her parents think we should be able to do a year with just me going over there constantly and that i should be making way more sacrifices. i have made sacrifices beyond doubt she even knows it. heres the best part.... if i propose, i have to do it in orlando "in front of their parents!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" not planned in special way by me.... in front of their parents!!!!!!!!! they have to see it. i dont mind it but why are they forcing me and our relationship to be a certain way?
theres way more to the story but ill give you a few notes.
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1. she feels that she has to complete her fathers dreams to walk her down the aisle and make her parents happy.
2. she is frustrated because she feels she has to make me and her parents happy.
3. even at the age of 24 she ask parents for permission for things that she is grown enough to do. she can't even be past midnight with out her parents getting pissed.
4. she had made countless promises to me and breaks them all because her parents convinces her to do other wise.
5. everytime we are on the phone when her mother or father comes in she quickly hangs up on me " without even saying hey babe ill call you back ok? " i feel as her boyfriend and the guy she wants to marry i shouldn't be tossed aside like that. I am not saying disrespect her parents but at least a "hey babe let me call you back. Me: ok love later."
6. her father has anger issues they have 4 daughters and all of them are horribly scared of their father!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
7. her father punch her big sister in the face when they were younger because she spoke back to them "gave her a black eye and bruised nose."
OUR relationship isn't natural and full of continuos good rhythms and she wont stand up herself and i am getting tired of it. I am constantly put aside and this relationship is taking a toll on my worklife as well.....
any advice...? should i break up, fights, is it worth it? what should i do.... i have tried what i can but honestly i think i am ready to break up! but i need advice from the outside. !!!!!!!!!!!! before i make a sure decision.
sorry for the grammar and the typing errors... i wrote this frustrated and mad and didn't read over it.