My girlfriend is really fat and i lie to her so she won't eat.

u dont deserve her shes probably really sweet and loves u ........

First of all, you shouldn't be hiding this from yourself and her.
She probably thinks you love her the way she is.
If you are ashamed being around her, I don't think you should be in that relationship.
Lastly, if you want the relationship to stop, then just tell her. Without keeping it in yourself so another few months, and she realizes that you're ashamed of her, that will really break her heart.

Yeahh...that is bad dude...especially if you are on the heavy side too, that makes you the biggest hypocrite. You really shouldn't be with someone your ashamed of, and shouldn't be ashamed of the person you love.
However, if she is really fat than you have an obligation as her bf to help her loose weight. You shouldn't do this by lame excuses though.
A few ideas for you...
Start working out (if you don't already) and encourage her to join you. It doesn't matter how much you eat, if you don't exercise you WILL gain weight.
Encourage eating at home instead of going out, many restaurants use high fat foods.
When you eat at home choose the healthy option! I am not saying to boil/steam the shit out of everything, just don't fry it, make baked dinners with lots of vegetables and lean meats.
Most important, mention it to her, yes you will hurt her feelings but using those lame excuses is not going to help her. I bet she is eating really bad when your not around anways. The idea here is to do it as a team, if you start moving towards a healthy life style than she will too (even when your not around).

Wow.. What an asshole.

Not only is that really shallow, its ridiculously insensitive and perverse.
If you don't find your girlfriend attractive enough based on her physical appearance, you really shouldn't be in a relationship with her at all. I would be horrified if i found our my boyfriend was pulling something like this, boyfriends are supposed to think your beautiful no matter what you look like, or how much you eat.
if your concerned about her health thats a different issue, and you can help her by starting a healthy diet yourself and suggesting she do it with you for moral support- but if you really just LIE to her to keep her from eating anything at all thats just misogynistic and cruel...

WHY did you start going out with her if you didn't like her weight? Or did she gain weight later on?
Anyway, if it bothers you so much, tell her the truth about it, suggest dieting, etc. But she may get mad and tell you to accept her for her body. If you don't want to, then break up with her. If you really loved her, her weight wouldn't bother you so much.

I love how women hide behind "it must be a guy thing" when women are equally as shallow. Women want a man with tight abs, gorgeous, model-like, chops down wood with his bare hands, etc. He wants his girlfriend to be healthy and sexier. How is this a problem. Women want the same thing from their men.

Start going to the gym and then tell her you love it and you want to go together.

One way or another she'll realise she's gonna have to change if she wants to stay with you.

HAHA sorry it's a bit funny. I think you should be honest with her and talk about it in a nice way though. She probably has no idea you feel this way and eats out when with friends or by herself. If you are not comfortable talking about it suggest going working out together or something like that :)

you're obviously not satisfied with her let her go

Oh right...I would say it is normal lol but your right VERY shallow!

Typical guy thing. I've tried that but the question is, would you be happy with her INSIDE and still want to be with her if she became fugly or fat?

If not, you should leave but if yes, then talk to her.

If she ask the question, "DOES THIS MAKE ME LOOK FAT." You respond back with "EVERYTHING MAKES YOU LOOK FAT!

OP is a legend

Hey dude. Look at it this way, no woman wants to be fat, or considered unattractive. If she's over weight it's not out of choice. I say wait for the opportune moment- like when she complains about her body/image/size/clothes etc and say something supportive. Tell her you've noticed, and ask her if there's anything worrying/upsetting her, then tell her you'd love to help her- shop for healthy stuff, go for walks, have tons of sex x

If she isn't happy about her weight then talk to her about it and ask her if she doesn't want to work out with you? or just take a walk with you or something? She has to eat, just eat healthy! She should not lose weight for anyone but herself. Just tell her that you are worried about her health or something.

I'm a guy and I know how you feel. Heavy girls don't really catch my eye much, but my ex is about 230 lbs, I didn't date her because of looks, money, or anything like that, I was with her because I loved her for who she is and for her personality and that's how things should be. put yourself into her shoes, would you want your lover treating you like that if you were fat?

as my quote says.. Treat people the way you expect to be treated.

i agree with magicer, say something like "im feeling fat today did you wanna go on a walk with me" or "im nauseated lets go get some fresh air at the park" you know stuff like that. and get her hooked on healthy fruit smoothies instead of fattening shakes and get more organic foods or u guys can plant ur own foods for an outdoor activity. but be nice and dont drop too obvious hints you know?

I think you should talk to her about it, be Honest direct and in a nice way, suggest that you have an extra pound or two that you need to get rid off and ask her if she wanna get some pounds off too.

Maybe you guys should start going for walks together, or maybe join a gym. Not eating isn't the answer... though I can understand your concern, as it's not good for her health to be overweight. There are also healthy alternatives. For example, if she wants to eat at a fast food restaurant, you should suggest Subway, rather than McDonalds or Burger King... though most of the burger joints also offer wraps and salads, which are lower in fat. And if she wants to make something, maybe suggest something healthy. Nothing wrong with being a "health nut." Good luck.

mabe you aint very attracted to her .. if your gonna make those rude and hurtful comments .. find a skin and boned chick that eats the same amount as you. itd make yew happier

Be honest. Tell her you're not going to be as physically attracted to her if you have a problem with her weight. Don't delay the inevitable.

What's not normal is that you're going out with this girl. You say she already IS fat and you're ashamed of her, which makes me wonder how you hooked up in the first place. Maybe you've got some problem with yourself as well which balanced out your problem with her in the beginning, but it doesn't anymore.
So unless you've got some other great reason for being with her, do the honest thing and
1. break it up
2. tell her to do something about it.

I can't believe people like you even exist, how terrible...dump her for chrissakes if it bothers you so much! This is not normal -- what's even the point of being in the relationship if you're deceiving her all the time?

I think you're trying to help her.

Why are you with her you sick bastard! She could be out with someone else who actually wants to eat with her and likes her the way she is. Guy like you make me sick... I'm not hungry any more.

You are horrible for doing that to her. Break up and move on, she's better off with someone else!

just equip her with back up beepers so people know when she's moving back.

SHE FAT OK YOU DONT HAVE TO TALK ABOUT IT!

You need to be honest with her and talk to her if you want a healthy relationship :/

just tell her the truth.

Why did u date her in the first place if she was sooo fat that you cant deal with it clearly you need help if u care that much about whats on the outside

lol @ all the fat women in this thread who are angry at the OP

No. How the hell would you lieing to avoid going out every once in a while stop her from eating at all? Fuck if you wanna eat shes still gonna cook, and feed herself right?

Most likely. Fake ghey.

Motherfucking shallow ass bastard go die!

are you afraid for her health or are you just shallow like you said? :/

Wow dude that's the girl you are supposed to be honest to......you are supposed to protect her from lads like you ......not to be one :/

There's no point to argue about the reasoning behind it, like everyone seems to want to do, but it's better not to lie to her. I think you'd be better off if you just talked to her. I don't mean to walk up and call her fat, but just let her know that you're worried about her health. I'm going to hope that it is her health you're worried about and not just because you think she looks like crap, but like I said, no point in really getting into that. Whether you worry about her health or not, that's probably the best approach. You can't trick her into not eating because if she finds out, it will break her heart. There's no way it will be easy for her to hear, so you want to tell her in the best way. Also, suggest for dates to do activities that will get her moving. I personally don't like exercise but if someone will do it with me, I don't mind. Like, take a walk with her (perhaps you can convince her to take daily walks with you or at least 5 days of the week). Do fun activities like frisbee, ice skating, and stuff like that. I mean, they make good date ideas and help with exercise.

Also, you should keep in mind that if you're disgusted that she's fat and you're still with her, you must love her. So don't hurt her about it, make it easy for both of you. Also, don't think about it so much. Think about the things you like about her. If that's too much to ask, then honestly, why are you with her? Find someone new.

Right. You should talk to her about it. And instead of simply reducing her meals, take her out for a jog or some sort of activity--At least you're giving help, not just depriving her of something,

That is, if she approves. Because it is her body, and it is her choice on what to do with it.

That's so mean! If u want her to lose weight, dont just stop her from eating! U'll make her lose weight at first... Then she'll be fine... Then she'll go skinny... Then she'll go anorexic! The same thing happened to my best friend! >-< she was fat at first and then she stopped eating and now she's in a fatal condition in hospital... I'm hoping you don't want that to happen to your girlfriend... Cos if u do... That's not normal... Sorry, but yeah. I suggest that you go gym with her, and set up a healthy diet for her and support her by doing it all with her and get some of her friends involved so she feels more comfortable. There's lots of things you can do to help her :)

Tell her the truth, and dump her already if you don't like the way she looks. The fact that you're lying is only going to make the real problem that much worse.

dump the lotta!