My girlfriend is a very serious cutter

So ive been dating this girl for about 4 months now. she is very mentally/emotionally unstable. she is a very serious self harmer, her arms are so bad you cant even see her skin tone, its literally all scar tissue. i used to cut myself, but not to that extent

we go into public and everyone stares at us, and its obvious why. i love her with all my heart and seriously want to help her, but she continues to cut. ive tried with all my might to prevent her from cutting and i go to sleep every night not knowing if she will even be alive the next morning.

i honestly want out the relationship because its physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausting i don't know how much more i can take...she threatens suicide if i leave her. she says she will kill herself and blame me in the note. because of this im guilted into staying in this extremely toxic relationship. all my friends and family think im insane for even dating her in the first place..when i first asked her out i truly believed i could actually save her

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Comments ( 27 )
  • mauzi

    You: how dare you insult me I have mental issues you have to pity me

    Also you: if you think something I said was shitty you probably just have mental issues

    Typical emotional abuser. 🙄

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      Lol nice. Agreed. Way to call out unwarranted use of the victim card.

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      • mauzi

        Yep! I hate that shit. Known too many people like this back when I was a much nicer person, they love to take advantage of others’ kindness. Gotta watch out for those creeps.

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  • CountessDouche

    Dude. I'm a woman. & I'm engaged to a man...who has nothing to do with charli.m, so try to keep your fucking psycho IIN shit under control, you fucking macaroni box reject, misshapen noodle, youuuuu

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  • CountessDouche

    Lol holy shit...do you think I'm engaged to charli??? Hahahahahaha hahahahahaha hahahahahaha

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  • CountessDouche

    Lol trust, if I wanted to "make fun of" you, I would be mocking a shit ton of the absolutely embarrassing, straight up not true & fucked up things you say on here. There's just so much material lol, but I don't care about you that much, even though your self aggrandizing, narcissist brain tells you that I do.

    What I DO feel perfectly justified taking issue with are some of your specific comments.

    Shit like:
    - accusing people who are genuinely scared and asking for help of faking it for attention (extra lols on that one & you know why)
    - telling people that medication is always wrong...you know, coz it killed the joker & whatever other twisted logic you have
    - mocking people who are sincerely asking for help
    - telling people who are genuinely upset to toughen up because you are lord of justified sympathy
    - claiming to be the victim of multiple sexual assaults, but then, THEN encouraging people to flash their vagina at fast food drive thru's...as if indecent exposure to minimum wage workers doesn't fucking count as sexual assault (maybe you think that it's ok because you're a woman, but how would you advise a man who masturbated or exposed his gentitals to female workers in a drive thru)?
    - telling people to not seek help for bipolar because it's a condition beyond help & that they should give up
    - telling people with bipolar that they shouldn't bother with medication

    & the list goes on & on & ONNNNNN

    The truth is, that you are not an OP simply asking for help with their problems & not saying anything destructive. If you were, I would certainly be against people talking shit to you, but that's not what you are. You are just a gross person, who prtends to offer "advice," but consistantly says things that are plainly destructive, dismissive, & nasty to people who actually ARE asking for help...& just because you have a mental disorder, does not mean that you have a free pass for your awful behavior, or an exemption to getting called out. Sorry, not sorry. You are a bucket crab, trying to drag people down.

    And...do you honestly think that people on here haven't read all of this shit you've said? It's a public forum. It's still on here ffs! It's just super baffling that you are acting like an innocent, misunderstood victim here, when most of us have read the vile shit you've posted. You must just have disociative episodes, because you certainly seem to be immune to taking responsibility or even acknowledging your own comments.

    You need to seek some serious help & realize that the things you say to people have consequences.

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    • BetterStandardsAtIIN

      I must congratulate you on your noble commitment, your forthright devotion, and the high intensity energy you use to command the drama with this bucket crab user that is a disgusting curse ever since she joined. I would even call your presentation brilliant against her "barely there" feeble consciousness.

      Please keep up the good work.

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    • itsamistake

      This.

      I wish I could thumb this up more than I can. In the meantime I am enjoying your ongoing "discussion" that you are having with this moron, who is completely unaware of it's complete and utter unawareness of what it says and does. I am still convinced that it is either a 14 year old or 40 year old (can't make up my mind) male virgin who lives in it's mum's attic or basement.

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      • ZandyRose

        Appreciate the comment, but as I have mentioned previously, you are mentally superior to the average American and just don't fit in here very well. Wouldn't you be happier talking to the top of a conversation? I think everyone would enjoy hearing the best from someone that is the best.

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  • CountessDouche

    Oh no! Oh how dare I? Right, because people who suffer from mental disorders should never, ever be criticized! They should just be allowed to say nasty, irresponsible shit online...to other people with mental disorders & serious problems. How dare someone speak up about that! How out of line!

    I've seen you say that bipolar is a living hell & a death sentence & not worth treating. My brother has bipolar, and he's doing fucking great- super happy on the appropriate meds & with therapy, but I see you say it's not worth treating. On this post, this one right here, you are having a laugh someone's problems. You don't think anything you say...making jokes about other people's mental disorders, accusing them of faking, encouraging them to give up, belittling their issues...you don't see anything wrong with that...AT ALL...as a sad suicidal bipolar?

    & you're beyond reproach because you're suffering& fuck everybody else. Well fucking excuse me!

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  • CountessDouche

    Bhfyykg you are such a shit. Don't you claim to have severe mental disorders? Didn't you claim to attempt suicide?? This is the help you offer? Heath ledger...

    You are the fucking worst

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  • CountessDouche

    Ugh sorry you can't deal with the fact that multiple people have a frowny face towards your egredioius fucking nonsense (I guess elaborate conspiracy theories are way better than taking responsibility for the shit you say) but fucking high fives towards the best IIN conspiracy theory of the day. I'm now engaged to charli, who is also me...and derblasisitnermal...and fucking postman...and anyone else who disagrees with your ass because it's just impossible, not even a remote likelihood that you could ever, ever be wrong.

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  • CountessDouche

    Also, quit spamming all my comments, noodle. It's super annoying.

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  • cipro

    Either end the relationship, or have her take antipsychotics plus antidepressants plus benzos(contact a shrink).

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  • itsamistake

    I am SO sorry if I hurt your delicate little feelings, NOT! You think it's ok to go at people full bore and sayy the most disgusting and horrendous things but you're all bent out of shape because I referred to you as it? Diddums.

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    • TheMightyOz

      At least you're superior to many people. I'm superior to no one because I have a rubber tube up my cock. I am just pathetic. Even my own mother thinks my condition is sickening and denies my existence because she is so ashamed.

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  • raisinbran

    You knew what you were getting into.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Yeah pretty much what CD said. Set her up in psych care before you leave here. Her family should have to deal with this not you.

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    • since we've been dating shes already been in 2 psych wards, both after being in the ER with massive cuts. she hates hospitals and refuses to take the medication when she comes home.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        Talk to a pro about it.

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  • cipro

    ive taken klonopin for five years now, and ive got a stash of around 800 klonopins lying around, im not addicted and i dont abuse the medication . Addiction appears to happens if they start abusing the medication(for euphoria) , or happen to have addictive personality to begin with. It is the fault of the user not the med.

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  • cipro

    How is my comment ridiculous? What do you disagree with?

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  • CountessDouche

    Lol you do know that all of the crazy shit you posted is still...on here?

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    • McBean

      *voice inflection of Steven Hawking's speech synthesizer*. I'm glad I talk in a monotone voice all the day long.

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  • CountessDouche

    Tard.

    Not helpful.

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  • cipro

    Were you replying to this comment or my other comment about phenobarbital?

    This is what Wikipedia article about Heath Ledger says:
    The report concludes, in part, "Mr. Heath Ledger died as the result of acute intoxication by the combined effects of oxycodone, hydrocodone, diazepam, temazepam, alprazolam and doxylamine."

    Basically Ledger died due to synergistic effects of multiple narcotic painkillers, multiple benzos, plus a sedating antihistamine. This is a very common mistake which sends many a people(pro wrestlers especially) to their graves.

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  • CountessDouche

    Shit, no dude. That is really unhealthy. You can't be held hostage in a relationship, regardless of whether you love someone or not. You obviously know that she needs very serious help. You need to inform her family members...or someone that can get her on a temp psyche hold. She might see this as a betrayal, but if it's as serious as you say, she could die...she could die. You gotta do something. Sorry you're in this position.

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