My girlfriend dumped me for this?

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I have caught my girlfriend out when she's watched Porn/ read twilight fan fiction in the past and she has lied to me and denied it even though i have concrete evidence, i caught her out on the day she had done it. Every time i have forgiven her. Now she's dumped me for watching a video on Youtube of a woman in her underwear 7 months ago, when she pointed it out I admitted it and apologized. Is it normal that girls have such massive double standards? Also, is it normal that she hacked my youtube account to find it out?

P.S we have been together for 14 months.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    She read Twilight fan fiction? Gosh. What a bitch.

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago | pl

    I'm sorry, but this youtube-underwear-video sounds like nothing more than an excuse for her to dump you.
    If it was the real reason - congratulations, you got rid of a nutcase without further damage.

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    • TerryVie
      11 years ago

      i agree wholeheartedly.

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  • westoptic
    11 years ago | pl

    Grow the fuck up!

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    Both of you, grow the fuck up!

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  • Squambly+
    11 years ago

    *sigh* Why do I even come on to this sight? I don't even like the color of my username. Its fucking green. I HATE green! Just break up with her and don't get into a relationship until you grow up. (Mentally)

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    • aoi2108
      11 years ago

      You DO know you can change the colour, right? :)

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      • Squambly+
        11 years ago

        O really? Is that a new feature? How?

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        • aoi2108
          11 years ago

          in the top right corner you have settings, there are 7 colours to choose from ^_^

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    You're both nuts.

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  • rachels1234
    11 years ago

    OMG HAHAHAHAHA!!!! she is a LOSER&CREEP are you still with her if you are what are you thinking , that is insultan to woman all over the place if that was me id get rid of her that is just werid dudee!!!

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  • rekltalni
    11 years ago

    not normal at all. Im not going to judge what you have going on..or had going on for you guys, but relationships have a set of rules, and you made yours a bit unpopular, but still rules none the less! I partially agree with them, unlike the majority here, but partially I don't. IN any case:

    She broke them, and was disrespectful in the end. I'd say good riddance !!

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  • frankiestrange
    11 years ago

    Not all women have crazy massive double standards. I couldn't care less that my boyfriend watches pornography. In fact, I watch it too. Admittedly nowhere near as much as I used to when I was single, but still. People also need to quit thinking that all girls are fucking insane. Just the ones you know are insane, are insane. I'm not insane. And I certainly wouldn't treat my boyfriend like that at all. I agree with a lot of people here, you both really need to grow up.

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    I am resisting the urge to make a twilight joke.

    It's normal for you and your girlfriend to watch porn (read fanfiction) while in a relationship. You don't need to apologize to each other and there's nothing to forgive. You two must be a very young couple, she shouldn't have gotten hot headed over things that don't matter.

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  • Myghoul2099
    8 years ago

    both of you can watch porn as educational videos and quit fighting.

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  • BlueAlice
    11 years ago

    Good god...

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    I'm still trying to figure out how the fanfiction works into this.

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  • ShadowBlade
    11 years ago

    You should concider yourself lucky

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  • Aleks85
    11 years ago

    Get off the site 12 year olds.

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  • cutegalsly
    11 years ago

    i dont understand why you should apologize for watching porn esp as a couple UNlESS you both are strong christians and all that...dumping you coz of watching a video is just an excuse and i think it may be because maybe you are not the type she expects you 2 be...i mean she would love to watch porn with her guy and you r against it...#just thinking#

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  • Kagean
    11 years ago

    I think my fellow IIN:ers above have covered everything.
    Dumb bitch
    What's her problem?
    She don't deserve you
    Be glad she's not your problem anymore.

    Nuff said.

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  • lilaithe
    11 years ago

    My rule (my boyfriends rule as well) is full on porn or suggestive nudity, be it pictures or videos are off limits (artistic nudes are okay). Non video hentai and other drawn or written porn is okay. You just gotta lay down a comfortable limit that you both agree on and don't snoop! If there's no trust there's no love. Find an in between and work with it. And no, not all women are hypocrites with double standards. You just need compromise and a mature outlook on things ;)

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Why the hell are you calling your girlfriend out for reading fanfiction and watching porn? It was still completely unreasonable for her to dump you for looking at a woman in her underwear, but you really need to get your shit together.

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  • the_misty_haze
    11 years ago

    I have a slightly different spin on where she MIGHT be coming from. I still think she's a psycho. I also think the twilight fan fiction thing is hysterical. Im assuming its naughty fan fiction rofl. Anyway this is my thought. You found she was watching porn and touching herself to the disturbing mental image of Edward and Jacob tag teaming Bella you got upset about this and she lied cause she didn't want to be in "trouble " with you was embarrassed whatever who knows...anyway I bet she started thinking I bet he ain't so perfect and went searching for evidence you ain't a saint found the girl in the underwear thing and assumed you were doing a softcore version of what she was doing. Lol in her warped little mind she might possibly think YOU are the hypocrite. Lol. Either that she used it as a excuse to dump you so she can find a man who will let her watch her porn and have her vampire boyfriend fantasies in peace.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "watched Porn/ read twilight fan fiction"

    Hahaha.....my ex once found a blank disc with my porn on it, she looked like she'd seen a ghost after i walked in......it was ummm....rough.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    I'll generalize, although for a good reason -all women have double standards. Your woman is stupid as well, in addition to that. Ignore and move on, get another one.

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  • foxyk
    11 years ago

    So with that being said, she shouldn't have broken up with u and she is a hypocrite

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  • foxyk
    11 years ago

    Wow, she can watch porn but u can't watch a YouTube video with a girl in her underwear? That's nothing close to porn! Also, does it bother you that she watches it? If it does, she should stop. People in relationships respect the feelings of their significant other

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      I disagree. I think it's none of your business if your girlfriend or boyfriend watches porn. If it really bothers you, you can talk about it, but you shouldn't expect them to stop watching it because of you. Yes, it's important to respect other people's feelings, but it's also important to respect each other's boundaries. Telling your significant other that they're not allowed to watch porn is overstepping adult boundaries.

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      • foxyk
        11 years ago

        "Yes, it's important to respect other people's feelings, but it's also important to respect each other's boundaries." This doesn't really make sense. First of all, you say it is important to respect each others feelings, so then why would you disrespect and hurt feelings if one does not feel comfortable with the other watching porn? One should care that it hurts the other! If the person does not care for your feelings, is it really worth it? Also, respecting boundaries...A lot of couples consider watching porn as crossing a boundary in the relationship. All relationships are different, and if watching porn is crossing a boundary, you should respect it. It's not like he's going to tell her to break up with her best friend, or...not drink milk for breakfast. Telling your significant other to not watch porn is DIFFERENT from ASKING your significant other to stop watching it if it makes the other person feel hurt, and if the one watching porn does not respect that, then I guess him/her can find someone else who likes porn (of course, then him/her would be choosing the porn over a real life boyfriend/girlfriend, which then becomes pathetic)

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        • shade_ilmaendu
          11 years ago

          I wouldn't want to date someone who's so repressed that porn hurts their feelings. I find it to be a childish perspective, the idea that "if they're with me they shouldn't need porn". It's just visual stimuli, and what's wrong with being in a relationship and still pleasuring yourself every once in a while?

          People tend to make lots of trivial things into big issues, porn being another one. I see a lot of conventional relationships that become rather controlling, but it's the kind of thing that we consider normal. Out of love for my boyfriend, and because I trust him and don't doubt his commitment to me, I give him total freedom and he gives me the same. I don't think it's fair to tell someone you love they can't do something because of your opinion on it, talk it out and try to compromise. Ill voice what I think, but I won't make anyone adhere to it, though I strongly advise the the less you try to control people, things and situations and the more you just let things flow, you'll see situations working out much more smoothly.

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          • foxyk
            11 years ago

            I understand, that's great your relationship has worked out. I'm just saying if someone really loves the other, they would not want them to feel this way. Maybe you should also do some research on what porn does to the brain and ways of your thinking, especially while in a relationship. Also, if someone wants to choose a prostitute over their significant other, there's a problem. Yes, porn is prostitution, we talked about this in sociology. People just don't like to use this word because it is offending, and people love porn, so they are in denial when they hear this because they don't want to feel like "bad people"

            pros·ti·tute/ˈprästəˌt(y)o͞ot/
            Noun:
            A person, typically a woman, who engages in sex for payment.
            Verb:
            Offer (someone, typically a woman) for sex for payment: "she never prostituted herself".
            Synonyms:
            strumpet - harlot - streetwalker - trollop - moll - drab

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        • VioletTrees
          11 years ago

          That's why I said that people should talk to each other about their feelings. It's absolutely fine to talk to your significant other about how you feel about their porn viewing. In the end, though, the fact that they watch porn has nothing to do with you, and that's what setting boundaries is all about: respecting the fact that there are parts of your partner's life that you don't and shouldn't have control over. If you don't want them to watch porn around you, that's a completely fair thing to ask, but what they do alone in their spare time is not your job to regulate.

          Also, if the fact that your significant other watches porn hurts you, you have confidence issues that need to be addressed. Your partner should support you as you work through these, but it's not their responsibility to shape their pastimes around your low confidence. Your partner not watching porn anymore doesn't address the root of the problem, either, it just hides it until you become jealous of something else.

          I hope that helps to explain my position better.

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      • ComTlancy
        11 years ago

        Well one could argue that the YouTube video could be classified as softcore porn.

        But do you know why they call it softcore porn? Because it doesn't get you hard.

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  • DannysUsername
    11 years ago

    You guys' relationship sounds a bit immature if you ask me.

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  • zackattack
    11 years ago

    She sounds nuts. Women, can get jealous easily and be hypocritical, but that's really bad. You're better off without her. And no it's not normal that she hacked your youtube account.

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  • Imsupernormal
    11 years ago

    Typical stupid woman! It's normal all women are crazy psychopathic bitches.

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    • superfail2!
      11 years ago

      agreed.

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