My girlfriend doesn't want to finish high school

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I've been dating a girl for over a year now. She's sweet and pretty and I love her to death. She is in High school and I have already graduated.

She constantly complains about how much she hates school and how she is determined to drop out. She is a Junior right now. Me, my friends, and her friends are always telling her to finish school. We, especially I, want whats best for her. Every time she brags to me about how shes making plans with teachers and counselors to drop out I immediately tell her how I feel about it and she inevitably gets very emotional and upset with me. I know that she wants me to support her in the decisions she makes in life. And I do. But I don't think under her circumstances that this is the right choice at all. To me she is doing this out of laziness. And I can't support it. I want her to finish school and have opportunity and to achieve. As I mentioned, I've already graduated and i've been out of a job for months now. Im struggling to find anything. I cant imagine how much harder she would have it if she dropped out. She just wont see my perspective though. She talks about our future a lot and all the, "when we live together we should do this" stuff. I told her recently that we may not be able to live together if you dont graduate and find work and we both work towards this goal. Because In this economy it cant just be me that works. She got really angry and hung up on me and didnt speak to me for the rest of the day. I dont know what to do. Please, any advice would be appreciated.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    This is only going to be somewhat relative as I'm a guy in another country but I left school at maybe 15, completed a GED & started working until I found a field I was happy in.

    It's not for everyone but I'm happy with where I am now - a qualified automotive technician building automatic transmissions, specifically electrohydraulic control units.

    Close to 10 years in the trade & in somewhat of a managerial position for a big company at 27.
    Well respected at work & paid the same, or more than, guys twice my age who have three times the experience.

    I know people who finished year 12 & at least one person who graduated university who aren't as happy or as successful as me.

    In saying all of that, it wasn't easy.
    I've busted my ass to get where I am & if you're not certain your gf has the drive for that then it could end badly.
    I agree that it's extremely hard to go far on a single income these days.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    She needs to finish...or at least get her GED
    but man she is not going to like life if she hates school...just saying.

    I could have graduated early and I was like nahhhh... and ended up just taking classes I thought would be interesting. I was in the military in HS so I didnt have to go job hunting after I graduated cuz I already had a job. About a year later I started work at a retirement home.
    eventually I ended up also going to college for two years.

    School is easy adult is hard

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Tell her that you'll break up with her if she drops out of high school. Getting her diploma is very important. She'll have hard life without it. Her dropping out will be a big mistake. Do her parents know of her plans? Tell them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Her mother knows and doesnt care. I think she actually encourages it sometimes due to a rough household.

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        That's really sad.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I doubt that anything you say will make any damn difference; she knows damn well that she shouldn't quit school.
    At 15 or 16 children rarely know and do what's best for them, and they often make mistakes they pay for, for the rest of their lives.
    If this girl can't see the difficulty you are having and understand that even with a two person income it's pretty hard to get ahead, then maybe this isn't a girl you want to spend too much more time with. She doesn't sound like the brightest bulb on the string.

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Schools the easiest time of your life, I didn't turn up for nearly the entire last year and still managed to finish with nearly all top grades. If she can't handle school I hate to think what a job will be like for her.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    I dropped put when I was a junior and finished on line. It's not that bad. The only thing that sucks is sometimes your old school won't let you back to walk with your other class mates. My school told me if I finished before the end of the 2008 school year I could walk with my class, which was cool. But they don't always do that. And if you don't have someone invite you to your senior prom that is in ur old school you miss it. Which is something most people want to experience. Especially most women. But I agree with reminiscent ^ she at least needs her general educational degree.

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