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I am Bisexual, but my friends constantly label me as Gay. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I have told them I am Bi but they won't listen.
My friends are a part of the LGBTQ+ community so I don't know why they constantly make me feel invalid.
I feel like I have to force myself to date girls to prove the straight aspect of my sexuality. Yet when I do that they claim I am trying to closet myself, which I feel like just isn't true.
What do I do?
Point out to them that they don’t appreciate it when homophobes dictate their sexuality to them and say they are “confused” or “rebelling” and that by telling you that you aren’t really bisexual and are just “closeted” they too are dictating your sexuality to you.
If they continue to do this it may be time to look for other friends who will accept you for who you are, not who they want you to be.
In my experience so many of the LBBT community are so focused on "gay" and throwing in peoples face that they cannot accept that there are other sexuality; and I am so tired of having "gay" tossed in peoples face - yet no problem with people just walking down the street holding hands and various spontaneous and normal forms of affection (hugs,kisses, etc).
They claim to represent the alternate sexualities and are quite hypocritical about anything except pure "gay". Unfortunately, that's a common human trait - especially when someones ego is on the line.
I have no problem with your being Bi. I suggest that you find new friends - as those that don't accept you are not.
I wish you the best with this,
Bisexuality is looked upon as just a fence sitter position. Most bisexuals pick a side eventually so from other peoples perspectives it's just a phase rather than an orientation even though a few can be life long bisexuals.
It’s called theeeeeeeee.........
BI-CYCLE, BI-CYCLE
*dun dun dun*
I want to ride the bi-cycle, cuz’ I am really bi
It’s time to ride the bi-cycle, it’s what happens when yoouuurrr biiiii
Maybe guys
Maybe girls
Maybe muscles
Maybe curls
BI-CYCLE BI-CYCLE
BI-CYCLEEEEEEEEE RACEEEEEEEEE
Are they deep into that community? I would explain it to them the way you've explained it to us. Idc how open they are, but they're being hypocritical; if they're really deep into the community though you might just be fucked on this front. You can't tell a fanatic something that goes against their doctrine and expect them to be rational.
I would still tell them your feelings on this issue, but be prepared that they possibly won't accept it.
You feel like you have to force yourself to date girls, you are gay. You proved them right by feeling that way in the first place, duh
Yeah, the point isn’t what they think, it’s how they’re treating you. Maybe express to them how you feel when they say those things. You don’t give them the opportunity to change if you don’t stand up for yourself. No one can argue your emotions either. If they do, I would find better friends.
You friends don’t seem like good friends, don’t feel pressured to date women just to prove you are bi though, date them because you like them whether they are a man or a girl. Never heard about people not accepting bi but that’s really dumb lol
If theyre gay say their bi, or anything like that or get people that are worth it
Cut down on the labels.
Are you:
straight.
Gay.
or Bi.
The more labels you add just messes with people.
lgbtqrstlomp, shit.
messed up my alphabet rhymn.
That said, your ' friends '
Sound like a bunch of confussed idiots.
So do you.
Why do you let some cross dressing fag queens decide your life for you?
Isn't that as bad or worse as being in the closet?
Why don't you just bend over and let them choose ALL of your dates.
Or you can have a spine.
live your life, and not try to please and impress judgemental folks.
If you read your own post like someone else wrote it, you might think like i do. You need new "friends". If they are "real" friends they would accept you as you are.
Years ago a "friend" that was my roommate for a short period of time. It took a year. I will condense it, he moved in with me, he didnt know i was a at home in private crossdresser. I fell asleep, he came in for lunch, i slept thru, i found out a yr later he decided to tell everyone he jnew what he saw when i fell asleep. Refer above at the word "crossdresser". A yr later i find out, i go to get back all stuff i let him borrow. Thats also when he started getting a cocky attitude, so i had to give him an attitude adjustment. We had been friends for 12 yrs or so by then. It was ugly for awhile, now we live in same street about a block ftom each other. But now we e are friends again and that doesnt get discussed. But now, i am me and i am ok as i am, if others dont like it joke them if they cant take a fuck.
I don’t even see why people have to argue over what label fits their sexuality and who’s the most ‘oppressed’ because of it. I just fuck people who are hot and rich.