My friend won't talk to me after i tried to stop her self harming

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Myself and a friend decided to meet up after not seeing eachother for months and we got drunk. She was more drunk than I was to the point where she revealed a secret about herself that no one knew, she was bulimic. She didn't exactly say she was, she just kept sticking her fingers down her throat and forcing herself to puke. I was trying my hardest to pull her hand away from her mouth and ended up getting a little bit puked-on. After she sobered up, she wouldn't make any sort of conversation and reluctantly let me bring her home. I have no idea what to think! Do I ask her about it or what?! HELP!

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  • Beanbag10
    11 years ago

    Stopping somebody from self harming isn't about stopping the physical act of putting her fingers down her throat or in other cases hiding the huge bottle of pills.

    To be a good friend, you should really help her with the psychological problems that are the root of the issue, perhaps by supporting her when she visits her doctor or therapist.

    You can't be there every single time she puts her fingers down her throat.

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  • bemah
    11 years ago

    Maybe, if she was that drunk, she wasn't really bulimic. You know people tend to throw up when they're drunk, and it tends to sober them up too. If she had done it when she was sober, I'd see a lot more reason to be concerned.

    About her not talking to you, it could always be something else, maybe she had a hangover, or she could be pissed off at you for some other reason, who knows. You should just talk to her.

    I'd be really careful too though, just in case she really is self harming. It would really pay off if you talk to her. And if she is, try not to judge her, just listen.

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    • fabtastic-baby
      11 years ago

      update: she is actually bulimic, she admitted it to a friend who informed me! GDI

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    When I'm too drunk I make myself puke the same way your friend did. I think that your imagination has gone too far here and if she doesn't talk to you now it's probably because she doesn't understand why you have not let her relieve herself. You should take and clear any misunderstanding.

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  • meowith
    11 years ago

    She does self-harm because she feels pain from something. From what I read, I think she takes judgement a it stronger than most. She feels embarrassed... Give her some time but don't let her forget that you are her friend.

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  • normalhuman
    11 years ago

    Maybe she was afraid you'd judge her. Talk to her about it.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Talking is a good place to start.

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