My friend was telling me that she hurts herself.

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Yesterday one of my best friends came up to me and starting saying how she was a cutter. I asked if I could see them (I like to see it in order to believe it) Anyways, she rolled up her sleeve and I was utterly shocked. Her ENTIRE arm was COVERED in red marks, some looked infected. I then asked if I could see her other arm and it was the exact same thing.
We then just went to class but I could not, for the life of me, stop thinking about it. After school I asked her why she did this to which she responded "Maybe my parents will notice me now." Now, I know her parents and her aren't on the best of terms but i'm incredibly hurt by this and I want her to stop, I just don't know how. Is this a common things for other teens to do?

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    If you care about her, tell someone who help her. like a councilor or a teacher. She needs professional help not schoolyard help. You are not equipped to be her psychologist.

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  • SadPanda
    8 years ago

    This is a serious issue. You need to tell a trusted adult, they can help her. Tell her there are other ways to get attention from her parents. Like, good grades for example. But hurting herself is never an option.

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  • lordofthekeyboard
    8 years ago

    She told you how. See for yourself,

    "she responded "Maybe my parents will notice me now." Now, I know her parents and her aren't on the best of terms but i'm incredibly hurt by this and I want her to stop, I just don't know how."

    She wants her parents to acknowledge her, pay attention to her, interact with her, love her, and be family with her. They're obviously not doing their jobs and they're not meeting her needs.

    She trusted YOU so please take that seriously. Somebody else told you to tell someone but I don't agree with that advice because your friend might take that as a violation of the trust she placed in you. If you feel like telling somebody please talk with your friend about it first. Don't do anything behind her back or without her involvement in the process. If her parents cannot meet her needs she might want to explore finding a mentor or life coach. Maybe Job Corps would be good for her if she's within the age range.

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  • najumm2025
    8 years ago

    Tell someone in school or speak straight to her parents, I have a friend who self harms and shed been doing it for ages and at first we were like okay its her own business, if she doesn't want anyone to know about it then so be it. But she then came into school one day about 3 or 4 months later and shed done it on her chest, both arms upto her shoulder and both thighs. It was really bad so we told a teacher and she told her mum. Now her mum checks up on her occasionally and she still does it sometimes but not as much and even if she does, her mum knows and can try and help her rather than her suffering at home in silence.

    Tell someone! It might upset your mate for a bit but remember, you're only doing it to help her, xxx

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  • Anonnet
    8 years ago

    It's not all that common, but it does happen. You're her friend, right? If you care about her, talk to her about it.

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