My friend likes me, but, i'm not gay? but i want to like him! iin?

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Me and my best friend have been through alot together, but the thing is, my best friend likes me and thinks I'm attractive. I like him, but I don't find him attractive. It's not that he's ugly per se, it's just that I am not attracted to guys. I really care about him, but I don't want to disappoint him. I almost want to try to turn gay, as stupid and improbable as that is. I want to like him, but feel like I can't. Any advice or suggestions on this?

Also, is it normal to have this happen?

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  • dinz
    10 years ago | pl

    You probably should just lay the silverware flat on the table.

    If he is a good friend, he would take a no without hesitation. BUT please show some form of empathy when you tell him.

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  • starie
    10 years ago | pl

    He can't blame you. It's not your fault your not Gay/Bisexual :/

    I agree with Dinz btw.

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  • k1d
    10 years ago | pl

    You shouldn't have to turn for him. Just let him know you dont like guys and never will........maybe!

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  • NotThatInnocent
    10 years ago | pl

    Normal. My advice. Don't force your feelings because it might end up bad. if you're not attracted to him then that's that. Be honest with him and don't lead him on.

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  • LostAndBroken
    10 years ago

    Sit down with him and have a good heart to heart. Just be open & honest, tell him everything you've told us. The two of you will work something out. You might even discover something you didn't know you were missing! Good luck.

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  • AnotherNormalGuy
    10 years ago

    Just date a girl and forget all about this question and all that crap.

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  • anonymous_wolf
    10 years ago

    If one of my male best friends liked me like that, I would totally turn gay for them. Doesn't mean you have to stop liking women. You would be 'Bi' that's all. :3

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    • peterrabbyt2
      10 years ago

      Well you could suck me off any time you want there Bro...

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      • anonymous_wolf
        10 years ago

        lol sorry, but you're not one of my best friends X.x

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Just becuase you are willing to be thier freind does not mean you are going to be willing to fuck them. If you are not into them you just arent. This gos for gay and straight people. If they are gay and dont like someone straight nothing is wrong with them they are gay. If they are straight and dont like a gay they are straight. Its not a big deal just who you are. Dont change yourself just becuase you feel sorry for them. If your not gay your not gay. Just have to deal with it.

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  • Elyod88
    10 years ago

    Don't force yourself to be someone you're not.

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  • peterrabbyt2
    10 years ago

    Suck the guy off and tell us all here how you feel and don't forget to swallow his cum...

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  • baronroderick
    10 years ago

    Well, I know what your friend feels, it happened to me not so long ago. Just be frank with him, tell him that you love him, but not as a boyfriend, because you're not attracted to men and you feel sorry, and that nothing will change in your friendship. I'd like to hear this if I was in his place. Of course he'll get a little disappointed, you can't avert that. Having a crush on someone and discovering that person doesn't reciprocate isn't easy, but it's better than go on feeding his illusions.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    If i were you i would end the friendship immediately

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    • Devyn
      10 years ago

      Meh, My best friend's attracted to me and it hasn't harmed the friendship. Why would you advise him to end it?

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  • KeddersPrincess
    10 years ago

    Well, you know, maybe you should experiment. Who knows? You might discover something about yourself that you never knew before. And if you and your friend are pretty good looking guys, maybe upload some of the pictures online. You might develope a kind of fanbase. See what other people think. And if you don't feel comfortable with showing the world but you still want an honest opinion, send the pictures to me. I'll give you an honest opinion. But personally I think you should try it out. Maybe kiss him, go a little further if you feel the need and see where leads you. :)

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  • capcrunch6
    10 years ago

    I've heard of gay people wanting to be straight, but never straight people wanting to be gay.

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    • Delgc030
      10 years ago

      What has this world become

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    • GreyWulfen
      10 years ago

      I'm bisexual and would rather be gay, problem? :P

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      • H8er
        10 years ago

        Then stop liking girls. Not that hard

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        • Devyn
          10 years ago

          Have you ever had crush that you wish you didn't have? If so you probably know how difficult it is to stop liking someone. Now try to do that with an entire gender, not just one person. It's not really possible.

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        • GreyWulfen
          10 years ago

          It's not that easy, lol.

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          • H8er
            10 years ago

            Sure it is. You chose to like guys now choose not to like girls.

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            • GreyWulfen
              10 years ago

              You should inform yourself about the topic.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    Turn gay or bi or say goodbye!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Sounds like you care an awful lot about your gay friend.

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  • cigs
    10 years ago

    i can't think of nothing for this problem.

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