My friend is in love with me, but i can't go out with her

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My best friend is in love with me, and I love her too, but mostly in a platonic way. she is undoubtedly beautiful, and has a wonderful personality and is well liked by friend community and twin sister.

But I am too scared to say yes, since going out with someone entails kissing and stuff, which I am both uncomfortable and inexperienced in.

And my parents are set against the idea of dating, especially until I finish college( another 3 years)
My extended family also wants me to marry an Macedonian girl(we're Macedonian) and my grandma keeps trying to pair me up with the daughters of people she knows(ignoring the fact that I'm too young)

I don't want to string her along nor do I want to lose her, I was hoping there was a way to keep her without having to become her boyfriend just yet.

I also want to run for office in my own country once I graduate from college, but my dad wants his only son to join him in his textiles business. I'm living with my uncle in New York.

Is my situation Normal?

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Based on 15 votes (8 yes)
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Comments ( 20 )
  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Don't do what your parents want. YOLO!

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    • Aries
      8 years ago

      "YOLO" I LOL'd ... I drove by a pizza place today not too far from my house that opened up called "pizza yolo" and it made me roar with laughter .

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Thanks this is the first time I said YOLO and really meant it.
        :-)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      It's not that easy to ignore their wishes, I greatly indebted to them.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Hmm... well, do your best to repay them, but don't let them tell you who you can and cannot marry.

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  • regisphilbin
    8 years ago

    you don't have to kiss her, you can just play video games with her and stuff.

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      Yeah, they can just be good pals for a while.
      ;-)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      That helps, thank you.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds perfectly normal, just like something one might see on a daytime TV soap opera. Careful of that twin, she's probably homicidal.

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    • seekelp
      8 years ago

      I bet the twist is that she's actually a clone.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago

        =]

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    A romantic partner should be like a best friend. If you dont feel ready, then wait until you are older. I do not feel ready for a relationship either, but I have several female friends and maybe someday I will want someone to be with when I am older and will keep my options open instead of rushing into situations that dont need to be rushed.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      So if I do say yes, I won't be expected to treat her any differently, will I?

      I'm not too comfortable with the idea of kissing and such, It would be unacceptable in my family.

      I'm also worried about explaining it my parents and uncle(who may be more open to the idea). My cousins probably wouldn't mind.

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago

        Is it your life or your family´s?
        Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend doesn´t have to be super-serious business. Just chill, hang out and don´t do anything you are not comfortable with.
        Tell her that you are willing to be with her, but you want to take things slow.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        I do not know the answer to your question and it sounds like you have some life experience to learn.
        Just do whatever you want. Thats what I do and I turned out to be a fine dysfunctional adult.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    you admit she is beautiful , you are already her best friend and love her . I would say she sounds like a good candidate but if you are not in love with her , well that's not worth ruining the friendship if you are just going to take off shortly after dating . I say follow your heart and the hell with what your parent's want .. love is up to you and no one else ! I hope you aren't denying your feelings just because you are afraid to express affection etc. out of inexperience ? ... if this girl is as amazing as she sounds , she will wait ! losing a friend is one thing ... if it turns out you were in love with her , could have had a life together .. that's a whole new heart ache . I want you to think this one ALL the way through before making any choices

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well I do love her back, but I'm not sure if I'm right for her, I don't want to make her life complicated nor difficult. I'm not sure what I'll be doing after graduation and I am also completely inexperienced in dating culture and the way stuff is here.

      I want her to happy, and don't think I can provide her everything yet.

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      • Aries
        8 years ago

        Maybe I have an old soul but I feel like if you two love each other , none of that matters . If you two are together and the force of love is strong between you .. you can make anything happen and whatever issues arise , you will figure it out together . I remember feeling this way before and then I fell in love with the woman and it was surprising the changes that happened with me , it felt like I could do anything and I just made things happen that maybe on my own I may not have done . Love gives you a powerful motivation and also it seems to bring out the best in us .. or at least from my experience .

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    To damn with what anyone else wants or thinks. It's your life, follow your heart and live it how you want (:

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      thank you

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