My friend didn't invite me to his party. is it normal that i'm not angry?

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So we're all back home from college. My friend and I are pretty good friends. He was probably the most popular kid in school, but I was just average. He's always been a really good friend and in all honesty this really isn't a big deal. Whenever he did throw something big he would invite me, and he definitely is not ashamed to call me his friend. I think he just told like 4 or 5 guys, and then a bunch of girls. No one told me, and I never found out about it until this morning. I'm positive that if I found out I would go, and no one would think twice about it. It's just that no one told me, and I'm not that much of a partier in the first place. So what I don't get is how am I supposed to find out about the "small gatherings"? Like am I really just supposed to text everyone I know and ask what they're doing this weekend? Part of me thinks I am supposed to feel hurt and betrayed that I never got a text, but in reality I'm not. It was more of a matter inviting people who make it a cool party rather than have your buddies over. Does that make sense, and can anyone relate?

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  • lillypoppy
    11 years ago

    If you're not much of a partier then yes you are supposed to text everybody what they are doing on the weekend..nobody comes and gets you unless you've got some sort of mojo going on with somebody that you'be been going to a lot of parties with. its a lovebeat

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I wish I would be like you

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Why?

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      • yesnomaybeso
        11 years ago

        I'd get super angry if this happened to me. But I wish I would be able to stay quiet and okay with my friend. It is a very mature and nice reaction.

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    Yeah it's normal. It's just a small gathering there'll be others. You're really level headed about it.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    The way to find out is to be closer to your friend by hanging out or, yes texting friends about whats going on and that you're interested. But if you are not that connected and are known not to be a "partier" what can you expect? People aren't mind readers.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Your attitude about is seems really healthy and normal, like you know exactly what is going on and you don't get hung up on feeling sorry for yourself about it. It *is* a downer to know that you're not popular enough to be the one of the people called whenever there's a party but at least your smart enough to know that it's not a personal reflection of your friendship, that it is more of a social game. If you really do want to be invited out more often, you should let your friend know, that way he can give you a heads up since he probably is the first to know about any parties going down.

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