My fiance sometimes fantasizes about others?

My fiancé and I have had a very wonderful and loving relationship. We discussed this once before, but it got brought up again the other day. My fiancé said he isn't entirely against partner swapping/swinging, as long as both partners consent to it. I told him I would never want him to do that, just because it would hurt me too much. He says he is fine with not doing it, and that he will be happy with me even if we never try it. We are already a bit different sexually, as we do BDSM play frequently (he is the sub).

However, he admits he occasionally has fantasies and sexual thoughts about other people. I'm not sure if it is one person or multiple, but in my opinion, that isn't a good sign. I feel like if he truly loved me and was sexually satisfied with me, he wouldn't have any wandering thoughts. We have sex regularly and we both enjoy it. We also love spending time together and overall he is wonderful. I'm just worried that maybe he will want someone else eventually since he has told me this stuff.

Am I worrying too much? Is it normal for men to have fantasies about others even when they are in committed relationships? He assures me that he loves me and wants to be with me forever, but I just want some advice from other people.

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  • SKDM007

    lots of men fantasise about others, such as celebs or pstars

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    Ive been married with the same chic since highschool. Shes great in bed. Great body blah blah and yeah I still fantasize about other women. I'd be lying to myself if I tried to convince myself I'm not attracted ti other chics. Its just sex tho. I couldnt imagine how annoying it would be having 2 girlfriends. Imagine the nagging. Fuuuck that.

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    • CozmoWank

      2 girlfriends = Twice the drama.

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

        Idk how those muslims do it.

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        • CozmoWank

          The ones with the most wives volunteer for suicide bombings.

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          • SKDM007

            can yall cut the Islamophobic crap

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    • lolamanilow77

      Not all of us nag! *wink*

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  • curious-bunny

    Your opinion on this is good and sound. Look I'm poly and my bf is monogamous, it started long distance. I had known him like a tear when I finally said yes to him asking me out. Well 2 days later (yes he was my first ever bf as well) he got really drunk and was asking if he could go have sex with someone cause he was so horny.. anyways as you can imagine I was devastated and cried myself to sleep that night. The next day I broke up with him. Then this is were I fucked up. Well I was very lonely and ignored most my life and I did have feelings for him at this point wich is why i said yes in the first place. Anyways i ended up asking him out just a few days later. Yea bad freaking move. Now we live together and I'm yearningto leave him but he will kick me out if I do and I can't afford to live by myself. At this point he has called me a cunt 4 times and worthless once. So yea that stings. Anyeays my point is I would be cautious about this man, being poly myself it can be difficult to not get interested and not want to do things with others. So it'll probably be the same with him esoeci ally cause hes brought it up 2 you even after you said you want nothing to do it. I can't advise any path just be careful. Don't end up in a situation like me. I haven't slept good in months. I'm now working 2 full time jobs so I can leave him. I do love him still I mean he was my first love a part of me will probably always love him bit I can't even look at himwithout being reminded tgat he thinks I'm a worthless cunt. So I just can't forgive it. We haven't even shared the room in a iver a month

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