My fiance goes to his friend's house every night.

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My fiance and I live together, we have a house, and a 5 yr old son. He thinks it is completely natural to leave every night to go to his friend's house. I know he smokes weed there sometimes, which I don't approve of. He doesn't get home from work until 6pm, and then leaves around 10 or 11 for an hour or two. What I'm mostly wondering is, how normal is it to leave EVERY night to go to a friends house when you are in a committed relationship and live with your future wife and son? We're already on opposite schedules with work, He works mon-fri(days), I work fri-sun(evenings).

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  • nownk4me
    14 years ago

    Allowing your partner to go to a friends house for an hour allows them to unwind in a way that they are used to, after a while it will become a once every two days to once a week until the best man of your wedding will see you off on your honeymoon and only reports in when its poker night. Good tip if the friend is single introduce him to a friend to speed up the process.

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  • TheJackel
    13 years ago

    He's a pothead. He leaves to smoke pot. With a wife and kid every night seems excessive. Try doing something to reduce it.

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  • batman002
    14 years ago

    Leave the guy alone!

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  • OrangeQtips
    14 years ago

    haha. what women gotta understand is, sometimes they just want to be with their buds for a while. If they used to do that a lot, they're not going to change their lifestyle just because YOU want him to. Let him be with his friends for a while, as long as he doesnt forget about you, you'll be fine.

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  • joliegems
    14 years ago

    Uuhh, why would you want to marry a druggie?? You have a small child, do you know the risk you are putting him at having weirdos in your life like that. Find a good, drug free man to start a family with.

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    • lynny4949
      14 years ago

      And I agree with joliegems

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  • Skartreuse
    11 years ago

    It sounds fine... for now. He probably needs some time to hang out with his friends, and trust me, time away is definitely needed in some relationships.
    For now it's fine but you should tell him that he should spend more family time eventually, especially once you guys are married. Let him have his fun while he's not totally tied down and try not to change his lifestyle too much.

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  • SincereQs89
    11 years ago

    My personal opinion is that you should say something to him about it. If it really bothers you and it's not getting any better, speak your mind. I personally would tell him he has a family to take care of and he can see his friend on the weekends or something. You need to be happy too! :) best of luck

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    Well it's not normal to leave fiance every night even if it's for an hour..I cant wait to spend time with my gf.
    I spend time with my friends but not everyday!

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  • 0000Lz4
    14 years ago

    Id say you should talk to him and get a real anwer from him, just go to him with out judgement.

    In one hand this could be a temporary thing, or something he'll do periodically throughout his life. But this could also grow to where he doesnt want to be at home or committed to the family, if that becomes the case you may want to reconsider your engagement.

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  • lynny4949
    14 years ago

    Every night is alot! I would flip.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Talk to him about having family time or exclusive time with you. Make it irresistible. Try not to make it so much about the friend visiting, although every night & that late seems too much and kind of juvenile.

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  • LovelyFaith
    14 years ago

    Every Night?
    I can see once in a while.
    But every night...
    Is the friend male or female?
    Are you SURE that's where he goes?
    How long has this gone on?
    Something more may be going on.
    -Faith

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