My ex wants to come back to my life and i am marrried with a child now

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I met him ten years ago and fallen head over heels in love. It was amazing for 4 months or so before he realised we werent soulmates. We occasionally kept in touch from a distance and he always said nice words for me. But now that we met once he seems to want me back. He seems determined to win me back and he says he is in love for the first time and he was actually running away from a serious relationship 10 years ago. Ofcourse I wouldnt dare tell this to anyone as I am really happily married to a wonderful man and we have an amazing child together. Just trying to work out what some wise people on this website might think of a behavioural pattern like this. me? Come on,I was madly in love with him, ofcourse I am tempted but I am actually very very happy with my life, too!!!

He doesnt seem to want something temporary. He wants me back for good... Talks about my child and lifelong decisions...

I'm just a bit torn between as married life sometimes gets boring esp after the child when sex departments put down by fire department!!! But I also feel too selfish when I chat to him on the phone or email him... Please you tell me... Is it normal to even daydream of getting back with my hot ex?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think it is normal, but I DEFINATLY would NOT reccomend it. Think how wonderful your life is now, you have children and a wonderful husband who has always been there for you. This man can't be very nice if he is willing to take you away from your husband and kids, and break there hearts. He must be terrible. Stay with your husband, plus your husband is safer. Things are going great for you and if you leave your husband and kids and the other relationship doesnt go so great, then you will have broken the relationship with both of them, forever. Don't do it, please. It sounds like your willing to chuck away your wonderful life, for a life with a man who left you before. You got over him then, you will get over him now. x

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  • SMILEifyourstupid
    12 years ago

    Maybe it's normal, but it's not encouraged nor admirable. Don't screw up what you have, it isn't worth it. Stop talking to him all the time if you can't handle just being friends without any romantic thoughts of him occurring

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  • CountryRoads
    12 years ago

    You're thinking about leaving your family for a 4 month relationship you had 10 years ago?
    Sounds like something deeper is the problem.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      do you mean sex?

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    It's not just following your heart anymore, it is now considering the hearts of your husband and child. The responsible thing to do would be to stop talking to this ex all together. Nothing good will come from chatting with someone you still have feelings for -- that is, if your marriage and family is your first priority. Besides, what kind of guy is this? Certainly selfish if he is only considering his needs and not what is best for you. He has nothing to lose; you do.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Cut off all contact with him. Push him back in the closet of the past, shut the door and lock it. What arrogance on his part that he thinks he could just ride back into your life and hijack you from your marriage and family. I realize this is an old post - but still - I hope you were not foolish and instead, decided to work on what ever it was in your marriage that caused you to feel that roaming was an option.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Fool

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Think of what your husband would say if he saw this...

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Cool

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    i think if you go with this man you will break up and then you will be in a whole world of pain. for what?

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    Crappy situation...
    I'd confirm with the 'bf' (ex) that he knows you're married and happy. Perhaps stay as friends, since you did like him and he doesn't seem to be a trickster, but don't allow him to think you'll ever leave your already happy life for him.

    You'll have to push through marriage boredom without him, unless you want to deal with the cheating (remember, its only sex, not worth the massive distrust everyone has in you afterwards). Perhaps seek counselling when that time comes, get some more heat into the marriage.

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    Is it only me that got the title wrong?! Married with a child.... I was like; what kind of sicko is this?!

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    If you go back to him and get married you will face the same boredom issues...it's life. Shame on you for speaking with your ex though...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Its normal.
    Just think it over, and the most important thing is to go with your heart!

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