My ex raped me, then cut himself.. i'm confused. iin?

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its not the first time I was raped, the first time was violent and horrible & I have come to terms with it, but for some reason I think about the second time a lot. I was dating this guy and he forced himself on me, I was a little younger and confused and afterward I began to cry, when I was crying, he took a razor or something I don't remember and started slicing his arm apart. I just get confused , why would he do that? Why would he not comfort me or I don't know? I was already traumatized, and I just don't understand why, why would he put me in a situation like that? did he want me to pity him? Is that kind of behavior normal for a men to do?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago | pl

    "Why would he not comfort me"

    Rapists don't usually comfort their victims.

    Rapists aren't in it for sex - they're in it for domination. Most likely he either regretted what he had become, or he was frustrated if it didn't give him the power rush he wanted.

    What's more important is that you've been raped twice you said. I would recommend talking to a counselor about how you can prevent rape - especially date-rape which this sounds like.

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    • AnaBanna
      12 years ago

      well I was dating him at the time, so I guess I kinda thought maybe there was a shred of human in him, or that maybe he cared even a little about me.. I just want to know if you thought he was cutting himself for my reaction or for me to pity him, or because he actually felt bad?.. honestly I don't know and didn't know how to react now or when it happened..

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        In my opinion... he's mentally unhealthy and unsafe for you to be around.

        If you haven't dumped him yet, you should. Even if you think he's going to cut himself over it.

        That's NOT a reason to stay with someone.... because if he knows cutting himself may work to keep you around, he may use it to control you in other ways.

        if you haven't pressed charges of rape you should talk to the police.
        He should be either in jail or in a hospital. Or both.

        And for you - seriously. Seek rape-crisis counseling. You've been raped more than once, you need to learn how to avoid similar situations.

        And self-defense / offense... so you can get free from someone if they try to force you. Seriously do NOT be afraid to hurt someone, even hurt them badly, if it means saving yourself from being raped again.

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        • AnaBanna
          12 years ago

          yeah i dumped him right away, and haven't saw or spoken to him in about 2years sense it happened.. I rarely date or go out anymore & I get therapy regularly.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            12 years ago

            o good!

            I do hope you find someone who treats you as wonderfully as you deserve.

            =)

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  • Ashlie
    12 years ago

    He was an insane rapist... he was probably cutting from self hate.

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  • YumInsanity
    12 years ago

    Maybe he was adding another notch to his arm because he didn't have a belt. Also, tell the police and have him put in jail so someone can rape him

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  • Macmac
    12 years ago

    Im sorry u went through such shit....it's abnormal for him to do such to himself, how i wish u didn't give him ur attention when he started slicin his own arm....im sure he would av latter comit sucide if he learnt u dont giv a crap abt his fuckin arms.

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  • MrJusticeXD
    12 years ago

    Nooo. :! :( Im terribly sorry. He is derranged.

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    I am sorry that ou went through that. I hope both men die a painful death as a result of their actions.

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  • Rufus
    12 years ago

    "Why would he not comfort me or I don't know?"

    "There, there, don't cry. You'll get used to it. They all do."

    Would that have worked?

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  • RubyCane
    12 years ago

    Do you keep an "Asshole-psycho-magnet" under your bed, hun?! I'm really sorry for what happened to you but you should really reconsider on your criteria of choosing your dates... :\

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Angel is right with what they said, rapists do not comfort their victims, it contradicts their whole psychology of the act. Rape is about power and having power over someone. If they comforted their victims, they would immediately lose that "power" they had.

    I'm sorry this happened to you but you should get some counselling if you haven't already.

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    • Rufus
      12 years ago

      No. Nothing makes you feel more powerful than comforting someone you have just raped.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Personal experience?

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        • Rufus
          12 years ago

          Deep meditation.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Go away.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    psychopath.

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