My deceased boyfriend's brother?

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My ex-boyfriend recently committed suicide. We were close friends for quite a while, but he'd been suffering from depression and didn't really tell us much about what he was going through. He took his life, shocking every one of his friends, especially me, as I was the closest to him. I'm not coping well with the death, obviously, but that's not my problem here.
Now, he had a brother who was a little younger than him who he left behind when he killed himself. His brother and I have been pretty good friends for as long as I was friends with the deceased. However, we've gotten close only recently, and a lot of confusing feelings have arisen. For one, I'm almost certain that I'm falling in love with him (if I haven't already). We haven't done anything, just mild physical affection here and there, but I feel as though we have a deep connection and it really upsets me.
I feel as though I may be dishonoring the memory of my best friend by being so attracted to his brother, but I'm not quite sure. He really understands me, and I him. It feels right being around him, and I hate being away from him.
Overall, the situation is very confusing.
Do you think it's normal for me to fall for the brother of my deceased ex-boyfriend?
If anyone has heard of any similar situations or has any stories like this of their own, please don't hesitate to share.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    You and he have a lot in common, mainly your grief for the same person. If it feels right go with it, but be aware it may not last beyond the initial grieving stage. If you're helping each other deal with your bf's suicide there's nothing wrong with that at all

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    8 years ago

    Is it normal that while you're emotionally vulnerable you've found comfort in the arms of man?.

    Yes, yes it is.

    The movie Brothers comes to mind. So do all those cop shows like Law and Order, NCIS and Cold Case Files.

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