My dad this to me and it made me feel hurt and angry, is it normal?
Is it normal my dad did this? This all happened around a couple of years ago and I still think about it from time to time, it’s fairly long but my dad comes into it at the end so please read and exercise patience, I work in the hospitality industry, I was in a job that I liked but the business was starting to go a bit quiet and I was losing some hours, the chef who was there at the time was keen to move to another job/kitchen as he wanted to earn a promotion to “Chef/Manager”.
He made me congnizant of this and I asked him not to leave, he said if he did he would be very keen to ask me to follow him there, I was chuffed and thought this would be really awesome to work under him directly as he could set most of the rules and I would be in a position running my own section, I have done it in the past and really loved it so I was keen to go there and said I would commit to him and follow him 100%.
He applied for the job and I was almost certain he would get it and I was getting really excited, I told my sister about the whole situation, I had worked at the place he applied for in the past and enjoyed it so I was keen to go there and we would have formed a plan together to set a good standard and provide quality food again not like the crap that was being served there at the time, I heard they had a lot of complaints about standard and selection.
I was home one day due to no work as it was “quiet” although there was other issues too with manager etc, I was in my bedroom and got a text from my
Chef informing me that he did NOT get the job and another guy got it, I was shattered, I was certain he would get it and all the troubles of the lack of hours and difficulties would be gone, I felt sorry for him too as he really wanted to make management, this is where my dad finally comes into it, so I read the whole message and literally collapsed to the ground and lied on my back completely, was just lying there in a state of sadness I guess you could call it, not moving and not saying anything, my dad walked in to bring some clean laundry in and I remember him walking past me or maybe even stepped over me and basically just walked past/through me like I didn’t exist, in and out of the room without saying a word, reacting or showing any emotion towards me. I eventually got up and I think discussed it with my mum and then angrily confronted my dad and said what is wrong with him and why he just ignored me and I yelled “ WHY CANT YOU JUST ASK HOW ARE YOU?” I don’t think he answered me or later on made a small comment, it hurt that he ignored me after seeing me in such a state and now when I think about it I sort of see myself in that scenario and then him coming in and then after he ignores me I leap up and angrily KING hit in the back of the skull!!!!!!!! I would never actually do this to him but how could he just walk past me like that as if was completely nothing to him? I’m his son!!! so is it normal that it made me that angry and I felt like belting him? or is it normal that he did this? Anyone reading this have you been in an akin situation? He never explained why or apologised etc, and I haven’t confronted him about it yet, thanks for reading, please reply :-)