My dad this to me and it made me feel hurt and angry, is it normal?

Is it normal my dad did this? This all happened around a couple of years ago and I still think about it from time to time, it’s fairly long but my dad comes into it at the end so please read and exercise patience, I work in the hospitality industry, I was in a job that I liked but the business was starting to go a bit quiet and I was losing some hours, the chef who was there at the time was keen to move to another job/kitchen as he wanted to earn a promotion to “Chef/Manager”.

He made me congnizant of this and I asked him not to leave, he said if he did he would be very keen to ask me to follow him there, I was chuffed and thought this would be really awesome to work under him directly as he could set most of the rules and I would be in a position running my own section, I have done it in the past and really loved it so I was keen to go there and said I would commit to him and follow him 100%.

He applied for the job and I was almost certain he would get it and I was getting really excited, I told my sister about the whole situation, I had worked at the place he applied for in the past and enjoyed it so I was keen to go there and we would have formed a plan together to set a good standard and provide quality food again not like the crap that was being served there at the time, I heard they had a lot of complaints about standard and selection.

I was home one day due to no work as it was “quiet” although there was other issues too with manager etc, I was in my bedroom and got a text from my
Chef informing me that he did NOT get the job and another guy got it, I was shattered, I was certain he would get it and all the troubles of the lack of hours and difficulties would be gone, I felt sorry for him too as he really wanted to make management, this is where my dad finally comes into it, so I read the whole message and literally collapsed to the ground and lied on my back completely, was just lying there in a state of sadness I guess you could call it, not moving and not saying anything, my dad walked in to bring some clean laundry in and I remember him walking past me or maybe even stepped over me and basically just walked past/through me like I didn’t exist, in and out of the room without saying a word, reacting or showing any emotion towards me. I eventually got up and I think discussed it with my mum and then angrily confronted my dad and said what is wrong with him and why he just ignored me and I yelled “ WHY CANT YOU JUST ASK HOW ARE YOU?” I don’t think he answered me or later on made a small comment, it hurt that he ignored me after seeing me in such a state and now when I think about it I sort of see myself in that scenario and then him coming in and then after he ignores me I leap up and angrily KING hit in the back of the skull!!!!!!!! I would never actually do this to him but how could he just walk past me like that as if was completely nothing to him? I’m his son!!! so is it normal that it made me that angry and I felt like belting him? or is it normal that he did this? Anyone reading this have you been in an akin situation? He never explained why or apologised etc, and I haven’t confronted him about it yet, thanks for reading, please reply :-)

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Comments ( 22 )
  • Britneywolf

    You definitely overreacted. He could of just seen you were upset and he thought you needed some alone time. It's not normal to want to go bash his head in for not asking if you were alright. Grow some thicker skin, ffs.

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  • Speciosa

    He may have just not realized what you were doing or that you were so sad. You could always just talk to him about it. I am sure he has had to suffer disappointments in his life, maybe he could help make you feel better.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    You overreacted greatly. He didn't realize you felt that way, so what? Get over it.

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    • Britneywolf

      Exactly

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  • DDJenny

    Maybe he wanted to give you space. Some kids, if there dad asked, would have been mad like, "none of your business, stay out of my personal life." So the problem here is possibly YOUR reaction. Perhaps your dads motives were not to ignore, but give u space. And if your reaction is a normal way you react, I would want to stay out of your business too. What if u would had said, "Gee dad, I was hoping u would have asked me what was wrong, I really n Ed to share (or vent) about something. Can we talk?"

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    • Yes you have a point there, it’s not how i usually react, I was going through a tough time and also it’s not the 1st them he has done something like this, so yeah I guess it may have been a build up of emotion too.

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    • It’s also hard to explain unless you know us personally.

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  • dads back*

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  • Kevinevan

    Next time you think you want kids, use this kids post as birth control people.

    Selfish, self absorbed, drama lhama.

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    • That’s a cruel and gratitious comment!!! RUDE!!!!

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  • Maybe I did over react a bit, I’m a bit sensitive by nature, I said grow up to some idiot who posted a troll like comment, must have got deleted, but he could have at least asked what was wrong, he’s been a pretty good father and said I can chat about issues if I need to but for some reason that really got to me, I would not actually hit him for that or at all actually but yeah guess my emotions made me think that way, and I usually am reseliant and have a pretty thick skin Britney, everyone has their thing though.

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    • Ellenna

      It's part of growing up to learn that if you want honest responses from people close to you, you need to be honest with them.

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  • RoseIsabella

    At least he was only ignoring you, and not abusing you or neglecting you.

    My God, the man brought your clean laundry in for you. I love my dad, and he would probably ask me what was up, but he certainly wouldn't be bringing my fresh, clean laundry in for me.

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    • It was just that my mum had finished a load recently and he always helps fold and put away where it goes, so it wasn’t specifically for me but yeah it was nice.

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      • Kevinevan

        If you are old enough to work, you are old enough to do your own fucking laundry.

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        • We have a good culture in my family and help each other, I do heaps around the house for them, we do favours for each other idiot!!!!!

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  • asked what is wrong with him*

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  • OH GROW UP IDIOT!!!!!! 😡😡😡😡😡😡

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    • RoseIsabella

      Why you responding to your own post?

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      • Kevinevan

        This idiot does this a lot.

        Too bad thats not his dad responding to him on his phone. Thats what his dad should have said to him.

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        • RoseIsabella

          I dunno, I wish my dad did more chores around the house. Sadly, now his back is messed up he finally tends to want to help out around the house more. Funny thing is his main job's are laundry related.

          I wish his back wasn't messed up.

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          • Damn sorry about your back, I have good parents, it’s just this particular incident that hurt and shit me, I do heaps around house by the way, cook dinners very often help with dishes etc.

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