My dad tells me to sit on his lap

whenever my dad and i are alone in the same room and he's sitting down, he tells me to come sit on his lap. like when he's watching tv or something, he tells me to do it and i do and we stay like that until one of us has to get up. and it's the same thing in the kitchen, or in his room, or anywhere else we're alone. i notice he only asks this when nobody else is around though. when someone does come around he tells me to get up. is that normal, i feel like it's kinda weird. and at the same time it kinda turns me on? which is kinda embarrassing to say. it didnt turn me on at first, but now it does turn me on. im a teen girl btw

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  • 7114garrett

    If it "kinda turns you on", then it's probably kinda turning him on too. Next time he want's something "on his lap" drop a bowling ball on it.

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  • toxic-mecha

    It's not normal. If it really was innocent, he wouldn't care that he was seen with you on his lap. As for the arousal you experience, remind yourself this: that's your father, related to you by blood, he's an adult and a relationship with him would be extremely unhealthy.
    Avoid your dad's lap for awhile. Forever would be good.

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  • FEMALENATURIST74

    It's not right as he only asks her wen there alone making it obvious that his intentions aren't genuine.

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  • PinkHairedFreak

    If you're in the younger teens, I wouldn't see too much wrong with it. It is kind of weird that he asks, but maybe he doesn't know how to treat you now that you're growing up? Either way, he KNOWS it doesn't look good if he only asks when it's just the two of you.

    I still sometimes sit in my dad's lap if there isn't other seating available, but he never asks or tells me to. It really just depends on what type of family you have. Are you a fairly touchy feely kind of family or do you put each other at a distance?

    Also, being a teenager, your hormones are going crazy blah blah blah, so it's normal to feel that way, but perhaps you should avoid sitting on your dad's lap for awhile until you can rein in those feelings. Maybe redirect those energies onto someone at school that's your own age?

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    • Ellenna

      Good reply

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      • PinkHairedFreak

        I knew everyone else would immediately hop on the pedo train, so I thought about offering a different perspective. Plus nobody really addressed OP coming into her sexuality which is a pretty important aspect of the teenage experience, and it doesn't always lead to the best decision making (I say this as a fellow teen who has made a lot of those bad decisions).

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        • Ellenna

          The use of the term "pedo train" is denigrating of anyone who's experienced child sexual abuse; it's not a "train" it's a violation.

          OP's age makes it even more important that the adults in her life, and especially her father, don't relate to her in a way which leads to confusion about her sexuality. If he has no ulterior motive why does he make sure no-one sees her on his knee? Sounds like the first stage in the grooming process to me, trading on her affection for him as her father.

          It shouldn't be up to her to draw the boundaries, it should be up to the adult, but I hope can say NO to this AND talk to her mother or another supportive adult about it.

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          • PinkHairedFreak

            I meant more like they would automatically assume the worst of a person. I used the word "train" as in a train of thought, so "hopping on the pedo train" meant more like they would automatically assume that train of thought. It's not referring to the actual issue of sexual abuse at all.

            I did point out that he KNOWS it doesn't look good in the first paragraph no matter the outcome. He knows it's wrong. I'm not denying that at all. I was simply providing an alternative viewpoint for OP, but I never dismissed the possibility of sexual abuse. It could be that he is grooming her. It could be that he doesn't know how to interact with her now that she's getting older. Only her dad knows his own intentions.

            It did occur to me this morning that maybe I should have added something about talking to a teacher or other trusted adult about it, but I decided to wait and see if I could get a reply out of OP.

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            • Ellenna

              Thanks for that response: I don't think our views are all that different, except I did assume the "pedo train" term was other than you meant it to be.

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  • sexysonofsam

    Rub his crotch next time he asks you to sit on his lap, then you can talk about the first thing that comes up!

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  • snarkygirl

    I hope this is a troll post.

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  • dick555

    It is not normal but way to many dads like to play with their daughters. After sitting on his lap, there will be another step to take and then another. How far will you let this go?

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    • flyingnostalgia

      Oh my,...i see you every where when post about father and daughter comes up. You have certainly plenty to say as i see,... maybe you have much experience in this...any friends, family got the same problem?

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      • dick555

        We are home nudists and I have plenty of experience with girls of all ages sitting on my lap. If it is something they want, the it is OK. Being naked and being open with what you do is a life style that may not be for everyone. But for those of us who choose this life style, it is very natural, free, and open for all to enjoy.

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    • Couman

      That's something to look out for, definitely.

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  • Ellenna

    OP, your dad knows this is wrong or he wouldn't be hiding it. He may be "grooming" you, which means training you in a subtle way to be sexual with him. Most sexual abuse of young people by adults starts in this way, not brutally or violently but taking advantage of the young person's inexperience and trust.

    It must be confusing for you to be a bit turned on by it but also concerned: that's just your developing sexuality responding, it DOES NOT mean you should act on it and is no excuse for your father's behaviour. If your dad had any real respect for you he wouldn't be putting you in this situation.

    Is there an adult you can talk to? Your Mum? Not on the basis of accusing him of anything, just that it's making you uneasy. If you can, just say NO or if that's too hard, make excuses to not do it ... check out his reaction, you may be able to tell from that what his intentions are.

    Please PLEASE let this forum know what happens - I for one am concerned for you - take care

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  • met445

    that post is so hot. made my dick hard

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    • Ellenna

      I hope you don't have any contact with young girls - you are obviously a danger to them

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      • met445

        shut up

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        • Ellenna

          Never, experts have tried to shut me up for years and it hasn't worked yet

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          • met445

            if it made my dick hard, then it made my dick hard. get over it

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            • Ellenna

              I AM OVER IT: totally over predators getting away with it, other people (almost all men) being turned on by predation and far too many people (men and women) minimising, denying and covering it up.

              I don't care if I sound like a 70's activist, which I was and still am: IF YOU'RE NOT PART OF THE SOLUTION YOU'RE PART OF THE PROBLEM

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  • DaddyBigHardDick

    How old are you

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  • EnlightenedNudist

    Stop wearing panties immediately. Next time you sit on his lap, pull his cock out and sit on it. He'll really love you for it.

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  • grldgib

    If you are turned on sitting on your dads knee it could develop into something more, just decide what you want to do, if you keep siting on his knee he will think you are ok with it, have you felt his erection when you sit on him, decision time

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  • IINtobeonthiswebsite

    Kinda weird, but, if you live in the south, VERY normal!!!

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  • randypete

    dose it make him hard

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  • handsignals

    You sit on his lap and talk about what ever pops up.

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  • deerhunter123

    keep doing it. i bet his thing get hard when you do. tease it

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