My dad is cheating on my mom , only i know , need advice

Options:

1. Tell your mom.

2. Talk to your dad, and blackmail him.

3. Find the husband of the married lady and tell him.

In my opinion, if you don't want to tell your family, just go with option 3. I read that you know the married lady's brother, but see if you can get in contact with the husband, because brothers normally try to protect their sister and not tell the truth.

I may be able to help you? I need to ask a few questions first though, why do you feel it will ruin your life? How long has this been going on? how sure are you in terms of percentage that this is going on? do you know the woman? Family friend etc?

That's a very painful situation for you to find yourself in. I'm assuming you're 100% certain on good evidence that your father is cheating?

Does your father know you know about it?

I can see all sorts of problems whatever course of action you take, including saying nothing to either of them, but it's hard to advise you without knowing anything about your parents and how either or both of them would react if you spoke up about what you know.

If it were me, I'd be deciding on the basis of which parent I'm closest to and would most want to keep a relationship with and then talking to the other parent. That's the only alternative I can see to saying nothing to either of them, which could backfire on you if they break up and your father knows you knew about it and tells that to your mother.

You sound far too young to be carrying this burden by yourself, so I think it would be good if you could talk confidentially with a trusted independent adult, maybe a school counsellor or someone similar. Regardless of what you do, with one partner cheating on the other there's a fair chance they'll split up anyway and that wouldn't be your fault; that's a matter for the grownups, not their children.

NO-one can "tell you what to do": you need to think through all the options and then make your own decision, I hope with the help of someone else as I've suggested.

so ur dad cheats on ur mom and u want that to stop like nothing happen? ok, let me tell you, my dad did the same to my mom with many women, not just the neighbour, my brother had the same idea as you, I always wanted to tell my mom but my brother always " bla bla please don't do it". turns out that my mother discovered by herself after 30 years of the cheatings, she couldn't take the shame and pain and gave in to alchool. she died 6 years ago. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, but about the consequences that situation can bring. I comprehend that u don't want to "destroy" ur family but u have to reason what right and wrong and overcome the fear of doubt. Try to talk with some of ur relatives on ur moms side about it (uncle, aunt, grandma or granpa), someone u can trust and or some good friend or ur mom.

if u were married with someone and ur son/daughter knew ur being cheated, how would u feel?

You should do what’s best for your mom, therefore you should tell her. Sacrifice your wants for her needs. And she does NOT need to be in a relationship let alone married to someone like him!

I was in the same situation as you except the roles were reversed. This happened for years until my dad finally found out and they are currently going through a divorce.

How old are you? I think it's relevant.

If you're younger than sixteen the most you should do is tell your dad that you know and you want it to end otherwise you're going to tell your mother.

And then again maybe your mother does know. Maybe she's got a little freak side that you don't know about? Hard to swallow, eh? So let this marinate dude. Either way I say confront dad. You sound old enough to have started jacking off. Make it a sexual fantasy and blow a couple loads into your sheets. You'll feel better and get over this. Good luck.

i ask myself what would Jesus do , his mother obvious had a child that was not his dads , Are you even sure your dad is your dad? and if he is not your dad why do you care ? i think i have the bible on my side here . its best to stay out of this subject. Ok thats advice for a christian , you might be a democrat so here goes. who makes the most money ? mom or dad? kill the one that makes the least and you win. see my advice is worth shit , and thats how i meant it to sound worthless shit. because all advice is worthless shit. fact every marriage has cheaters in it , you obviously cant forgive your dad, thats a given so how do you expect mom to do that. what you really want here is permission to do what you are going to do anyway.any advice anyone gives you here is what they would do anyway. what you need is the balls to do it. and you have none . so it boo hoo pity me my life will end . well suck it up cupcake its not like my parents didnt cheat on each other as far as in concerned they deserve it. both of them . ill tell you something else mom or dad or whoever is or isn't cheating , they dont give a rats ass about how you feel about it because they will do whatever the hell they want to do about it . some ignore the infidelity some divorse but the children have no fucking input at all. Someday you might be married to a cheater , what will you do ? ask your daughter or son best friend ? internet strangers? no , you will muster up the balls to do whatever.

Sending my wishes to you and your sister. And everyone. No one should have to be in your position, but it is totally up to you. Remember, their mistakes, not yours. No matter the outcome, the issue here is their behavior. Its perfectly acceptable for you to talk to anyone or no one about it and you should feel no guilt ideally as they brought this unto themselves and mending this is not your responsibility . and I'm sure your mother would understand you not telling her to keep the fam together

My big sister experienced the same thing when she was around 7, I think. My mom was out of town to visit her sister. So he brought her to our house and my sister saw them all flirty. My Mom gave him countless second chances. Years later my sister found out about our half siblings. She didnt tell my Mom either. When we got older, my sister decided to prove to my Mom that my Dad never changed. So she went to visit my Dad's house and made him think that she's on his side to get him to bring his slut in his house. As planned he did, he brough her home and introduced her to my sister. My sister pretended that she was okay with it. After a day or two, she called my Mom and told her everything. I was at home with my Mom that day and she cried a lot. I've never seen my Mom cried that much before. I was angry, of course. My Dad made us all think that he's changed and my Mom was ready to give him another chance but he all blew it. They separated in the end. And I was sooo relieved. I felt like an invisible knife was taken out of me. My Dad was never good to us anyway. He's always been selfish and close-minded.

Anyway, I guess all I'm trying is...your Dad will probably continue cheating to ur Mom if ur not going to tell the truth. Your Mom is the victim here and she has the right to know. Ask your dad if he really cheated or not first. If he really did, he's probably gonna try and convince you that he's never gonna cheat ever again and that he's gonna to change for you and your Mom. I advise you not to listen to him. Your Mom should be the one to decide whether to give him a second chance or not. At least that what's I would do it I were you. Your parents and my parents are different so I would not say that this is the best advice for your family. It's up to whether to take it or not.

Rather than taking my advice, talk to your counselor instead about this. I only told u what happened to my parents to give u a bit of insight what MIGHT happen. You're young and you don't deserve this kind of burden. Don't rush yourself. Take ur time and think about it clearly and carefully. Don't go through this alone. Talk to your counselor about it and talk to your closest friend. Good luck:)

So confront daddy that you know. Tell him he either knocks it the fuck off or you will take great pleasure in cutting his nuts off! That aught to do it.

I understand you not wanting them to get divorced, but the best thing to do is tell your mom. It's simply the right thing to do. She needs and deserves to know. But please make sure you aren't overreacting and that you know for a fact he is cheating.

Let them handle it.