My brother and i are both adults, why would he do this?

I'm a 28 year old female. I'm 7 years older than my brother who is 21. We've never had a close relationship, we are more like close acquaintances. I hadn't visited my parent's home for several months, I live two hours away and my brother still lives at home with my parent's. When I went down to visit a week ago and spend time with my family my brother was drinking a few beers that evening and I decided to drink a few with him. After having a few beers we decided to go outside to smoke a cigarette and it was getting late probably around 11 PM. We were just talking with each other but then it got weird after a little bit. Idk if he was drunk or what but he asked me if I wanted to walk to the barn down the road. I said, umm.. no why would I want to do that it's dark and creepy and it's getting late and I'm tired. He said oh, come on. It freaked me out and immediately my intuition started to kick in and I felt like there was something else going on. I quickly put out my cigarette and went into the house where it felt safer. He followed me inside, our parent's were already in bed, he said hey sis, I have a weird question for you, can I play with your breasts maybe more? I was like umm.. not just NO but HE** NO, are you joking around? I asked him how much he'd had to drink and he said 9 beers. At that point I'd had 3. (I should note that he drinks beer in excess, like a case or more every other day, so I don't think 9 beers would have gotten him drunk?) It freaked me out beyond freaked me out. When I told him NO he got very angry with me and called me a *itch. He then went into his room and slammed the door. I was so scared that I packed up my things very hurriedly and left my parents house immediately. I drove the 2 hours home that night in the pouring down rain because I was afraid that he was going to come out of his room if I went to sleep and try to rape me. I was going to be sleeping on my parent's couch in the living room all alone. My parent's don't understand why I left and I haven't told them the truth because I'm too embarrassed for myself and my brother. I don't want to visit my family again, I don't know what to do. This has really made me not want to have anything to do with my family. My brother lives with our parents and I don't believe that he'll be moving out any time soon. I can't imagine even speaking to my brother again after he disrespected me that way. Was this just a drunken moment or is this just really messed up? We are both normally sane adults. I should probably add that we are only half siblings although we grew up together so we have been in each other's lives all along. We share the same mother but not the same father. I am confused! I'm in a committed relationship so I don't know why my brother would even think I would have said yes to this strange request in a million years. PLEASE Help!

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  • thecynic

    "Was this just a drunken moment or is this just really messed up?"

    My opinion?

    If you are not 100%% sure he was too drunk to think straight, then I'd say this guy is bad news. Sorry. If he could barely stand on his feet, I'd say 'This is a freak incident. Try talking about it with him, then try to forget it ever happened.' Honestly though. The way you described him during that night, doesn't sound like he was that drunk at all. Also... 9 Beers can make a grown man pretty drunk, so I'm also positive the alcohol had its influence...

    In my country, we have a saying though...

    "Small children and drunken people will tell you the truth."

    Perhaps he showed his true colors? Again, he's your brother. I don't want to demonize him yet, but I would be very, VERY careful if I were you.

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  • pidgeonshaveAIDz45

    so how did everything work out?

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  • Bigmac69

    Remember this !
    "Drunken person speaks sober thoughts"
    In other word speak the truth or has had to had thought of it before

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  • CorryA90

    Fuck him.

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  • ZOR69

    How does my wife feel about having been molested and violated by her brothers? She does not seem to be too bothered by that actually. At the time it was happening though, she did have some what mixed feelings about it. She enjoyed it to some extent, though felt weird about it, and sometimes really resented one brother in particular for being such a bully and a pest, always demanding sex from her. Their parents, who were regular church attending Baptists, did not seem to mind their kids fooling around with each other, though did not really want them going "all-the-way". Not really sure just what they meany by that. They may have simply wanted them to practice Onanism (withdrawal).

    Some, I suppose might consider me to be an incest victim or survivor myself. My mom and I used to practice karezza when I was a teenager. I am not proud of it, but neither am I unduly ashamed of it. It is just one of those things that happened. If that makes me evil or depraved, well I guess that is just too damned bad.

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    • karmarainbow

      what is karazaa?

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      • billyboy

        Karezza is a sort of prolonged coitus, without the male achieve an orgasm, in case you did not look it up on the internet.

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        • BlueAlice

          Sorry to bring it up, but was there any particular reason it happened?

          Who instigated it, and what was it like?

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  • ZOR69

    My girlfriend and her brother were incestuous lovers behind my back when we were dating. He finally got her knocked up, so we got married. (He would not use condoms!) I did not know it at the time that he was the one who impregnated her. Eventually, she confessed it to me. She also told me that her oldest brother had taken her virginity at a young age, so she was sexually molested. Life is strange, and sometimes kind of raunchy.

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    • Yeah - and tell all the assholes on this site about how great your wife feels about having been molested and violated.

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  • YipesStripeFruitStripeGum

    Ok. I joined this website to comment on your story. hope it isnt too late.
    Do not talk to your parents yet.
    Call your brother. This will be a really uncomfortable conversation, but if you want to salvage any sort of relationship with him then talk to him. If you call him up and he's a jerk then you can talk to your parents. give him a chance to apologize for being a pig first. All guys have screwed up fantasies, but most of us arent dumb enough to act on them.
    Everyone makes mistakes. Hopefully you guys can get over this.
    If you tell your parents before you try to talk to him then you will never be able to recover from it.

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    • Thanks for commenting and joining the site just to comment on my story.

      I have called my brother and have talked to him about it.

      I did not tell my parent's.

      Thank you.

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      • billyboy

        For what it is worth, I am really sorry that your brother hit on you and that it upset you so much! I hope you can get over it and get a good relationship restored with him. Of course, I know that many siblings never seem to get along well anyways. Maybe you will be lucky.

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  • karmasAbich

    Hmph.. I wouldn't think he would rape you or he probably would have done it already. But no doubt thats creepy shit just chill out and you said you talked to him. Just tell him to quit being a red neck.

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  • BoredGuy

    He probly have many issues. Was he molested?

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  • Yeah he's pretty friggin sick. Not all guys are like that

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  • randomjelly

    I've always been in complete control no matter if I'm drunk or not. That's simply an excuse. I hope you stay safe and far away from him.

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  • karmarainbow

    how can you people justify it because of the booze? i could be drunker than a skunk and never want to f*** my brother. gross. my conclusion is seriously that all men are driven by their penises, even family members. sorry to say that, but thats been true in my experience.

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  • pandabear1209

    People are honest when theyr drunk, so he proly meant it. You should tell your parents so they will kick him out ( he's to old to live at home anyway) and then you can visit them without seeing him

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  • I think it's pretty obvious he had more than nine beers, don't worry bout it, he was just drunk.

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  • ashleycox99

    i voted yes but i meant no that is sick it probaly the beers

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  • DisturbedFreak

    Nice dis functional family

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  • redcomb

    You know, our bodies don't actually recognize concepts like "brother" or "sister". What they recognize is "female" or "male". Did you see Euro Trip? There was a scene where the brother and the sister were totally making out and then they happened to open their eyes and they were both freaked out. But before their so-called "parent" took over, telling them it's dirty, it's wrong, it obviously wasn't wrong. It didn't FEEL wrong. Its not like torturing someone while they beg you to stop. It's a matter of accepting that you have parts of yourself that are different from what you imagined. You rise above them. Talking to your brother (and most certainly talking to your parents) is probably a mistake. This has to be approached SIDEWAYS, NOT DIRECTLY. Too many defenses will go up if you approach it directly and nothing will ever work out in a rational and acceptable way.

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    • That is just fucking ridiculous. What is with the nincompoops on this site rationalizing incest?

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  • You have a right to be safe and your parents have a right to expect that for you and other female guests. Your brother violated all of you.

    He's the one that has/is messed up & is totlally responsible for his behaviour and to change it.

    However you approach this do not let him off the hook for what he has done and for making changes (boozing being part of the picture, counselling).

    You have every right to demand appropriate steps from him or blow the whistle. No 2 ways about it.

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  • Mentalomen

    tell your parents and stay away from that fucking creep

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  • I think you should no matter how embarresed tell your parents about this. I assume your brother had more to drink then he was telling you. How could he want his own sister!?? No offence but still...tell your parents or talk it over with your brother. DO something! dont jus sit there and let it go by.

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