My boyfriends bitchiness and moodiness is driving me crazy.

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My boyfriend has been working for his company for two years and almost from the day he started there he complains daily about how much he hates it. I have made many suggestions from getting a different job to training for a different career and he always has a reason he can't. He is a manager with this company and let's his employees talk to him any way they want. They don't respect him and therefore do very little work. He ends up going in after hours and doing the things they did not complete. I am starting to lose respect for him as I have been a manager before and would not have tolerated this kind of thing. Every day he sounds more whiney. He even texts me during the day to complain. Recently he proposed and I really did not know what to say except there are alot of things we need to work out. Not to mention he just kind of showed me the ring and said " There is no good way to do this so here it is." No dinner, no creativity, no romantic spot.Only recently (we have been dating 4 years) did he admit he has anxiety and depression, although I always thought something was a little off and I just couldn't figure it out. My boyfriend is a good person and is very caring. We love doing alot of the same things and I do love him but at times I feel like more of a man than he is with his whininess. And if you knew me you would know I am very much a girlie girl. I'm not sure where to go from here. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

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  • charli.m's_Relentless_Period
    8 years ago

    You have tolerated this guy for an ENTIRE 2 years. Why?

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    • Butrflyblue
      8 years ago

      He is very kind and is good to my son. We have alot of common interests and for the most part we have a good time together. But this behavior really is starting to get to me.

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  • BlackyHancock
    8 years ago

    "My boyfriend is a good person and is very caring. We love doing alot of the same things and I do love him but at times I feel like more of a man than he is with his whininess. And if you knew me you would know I am very much a girlie girl. I'm not sure where to go from here. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. "

    The sentences above pretty much sum up the bones of the conversation you need to have with him.... and real soon. You need to let him know that if he doesn't man up soon it could be the end for the relationship.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It's laziness. He doesn't actually want a new job since he's probably getting decent pay there, he just doesn't want to work as hard.

    The bad thing about lazy people besides being lazy, is that they take things for granted very easily, so it's no surprised that he just toss you the ring and expected you say yes.

    Also, understand the difference between laziness and depression. You got to draw a line, or he's going to use the "I'm depressed," excuse all the time. In my opinion, laziness is the selfish pursuit of one's own desires to do the bare minimum, while depression takes away all ambition in just about anything and everything.

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    • Butrflyblue
      8 years ago

      Thank you all! This information is very helpful. I wanted to be fair and give him a chance to turn things around. I appreciate your incite.

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  • Tgs_I'm_a_big_douchebag
    8 years ago

    Dump him. Find a real man with a real job.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Where to go from here?
    Out the door with all your things. This guy has had two YEARS to get his shit together and as you know by now, he never will. Hasta la bye bye, don't you think?

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    • Penis_Boobs
      8 years ago

      Funny how you took the girl's side of the discussion.

      To the OP if you are losing respect for him, do you still respect that he probably pays for your date nights? Do you still respect he paid for that ring he gave you?

      Maybe you could just try respecting him for being a man and try being supportive of him. Who cares about his stupid job, its just a way to pay the bills.

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