My boyfriend won't turn the heat on when it is below freezing outside.
What should I do? My fiance won't turn the heat on when I stay over at his place (which is only about once a month). I was at his place tonight, and I got up out of his bed and drove 30 miles home to my house, it's 1 a.m. My feelings are really hurt. He stays at my place and turns the heat up to 74, often, knowing that I try to keep the heat at or below 70 to save money, as well as make it comfortable. Now please understand, the weather here in MO has been below freezing. Only around 19 at night and about 26 in the day. It's currently 16 and there is ice on the ground and cars. I try to make him comfortable when he is at my house. I buy almost all the food and cook it and wash the dishes. We occasionally see a movie, about once every 2 months, when he wants to see one. I know that he is frugal, I am too. However, he makes really good money driving a truck, and doesn't have to use the heat at his place very often. He usually comes to my place, where there is a hot meal waiting and I am looking pretty, waiting for him all week. I have talked with him about how cold it is in his house and he promised me again tonight that he would use the heat.(He turned it on and off for awhile while we watched tv tonight, but I was so cold, fully dressed, and had to put a coat and a blanket over me on the couch) I woke up with my nose, ears and hair just freezing and couldn't help but get pissed off! My feelings are hurt. I told him that I couldn't see myself marrying someone who doesn't care enough to keep me warm. I don't know if I was unfair to say that and to leave, but I really do feel bad about this. Also, I'm beginning to think he is really cheap. We don't go on dates and he doesn't give me money...ever. Please understand, I don't ask him for money, ever. We are in our late forties and have been dating nearly a year and are engaged to be married. I don't have a ring yet, but he says he is paying on one. He wants a lot of sex too. I can't complain about that part of it, but I'm beginning to feel a little confused. What would you do? Regarding the heating, I know it costs money to heat a home, and I don't expect the heat to even be over 60 degrees at night. But this seems ridiculous to me. I think he just hates to spend the money when it comes time to fill the propane tank, however, I have already spent over 700 filling mine this fall and winter. I would like to hear any advice. Thanks.