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One day I came back from work, tired and exhausted. I heard some moaning coming from the bedroom. I quietly walked to the door and peeked in at what was happening.
My boyfriend was fucking himself with one of my vibrators. His phone set up in front of him. Probably recording or something.
I was wondering if this is normal? Should I tell him about this? Should I break up with him? Im so confused right now.
I just realized my girlfriend uses dildos when I thought she wants to fuck only my dick. Should I break up with her?
How does this sound to you? Because that's how you sound when you ask us whether you should break up because of a fetish or a practice that's harmless. I'm not a fan of any of that, but I don't understand why would this be a reason to leave somebody.
I was a bit confused by what happened, especially since this is the 6th time I’ve saw him doing it. There’s nothing wrong with it, if he’s bisexual or gay. But what concerned me was the phone. After he was finished he’d stop recording then type something on there. I’m a bit worried he’s sending it to other people?
Man I wish my boyfriend would do that stuff on his own. I've gotta always ask for that stuff. But anyway, there's nothing wrong with him using it. A person doesn't have to be gay to use them. Straight people have prostates too. The only troubling thing about it is the fact that he's recording himself. Is he cheating and sending that to another person? If not then there's really no reason to want to break up with him over something harmless. Also, he needs to get his own toys.
I love it when my gf fucks me in the ass with her toy as she sucks me it drives me crazy.
All men can enjoy anal play regardless of orientation, but even if he were bi that's no reason to break up with him.
In regards to the phone thing - is it possible that he's just watching porn? Because he'd maybe want to prop his phone up somewhere in front of him to do that. And maybe he looks like he's typing afterwards because he's just closing down the websites/clearing his history etc? Like everyone else said you need to just talk to him about it. Maybe he just likes the feeling of it and you'll end up doing some new kinky stuff in bed
Okay a guy using a dildo doesn’t necessarily mean he’s gay or bi, but even if he is, I really hope you’re not uncomfortable just because he might be gay. Some guys just like ass play or whatever because all men have a g spot in their ass. What I would be concerned about is the possibility of him recording it. He might be posting it on a porn site or sending it to someone else. I would just ask him about it nicely. You should be able to tell if he’s lying if you’ve been with him long enough. If he’s honest with you, you should consider helping him out if you’re up for it. I mean help him out with maybe fingering him or some shit. Maybe even fuck him with a strap on. It’s really up to you how you handle the situation but I wouldn’t break up with him unless you know for a fact he’s recording it and other people are seeing it. I don’t think the possibility of him being bi is a good reason to leave him. He might just be confused or experimenting or bored with his sex life. He might be embarrassed and that’s why he’s not telling you things. If I were you, I would be open minded and understanding. Tell him you still love him and you don’t care that he does it, but are just wondering why he does it and why he doesn’t want you to know about it and then tell him that you would help him out with his desires if he wants. The only thing about this that would be a deal breaker for me personally is the possibility of him recording it and showing it to other people. If I were you I would look through his search history on his phone to see if he’s uploading it to a porn site or live-streaming or something. Does he make a suspicious amount of money that is unexplained?
I wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend was gay or bisexual! I fully support LGBTQ+ I was just concerned about the recording stuff that you mentioned. Also he never really speaks about money but he seems to buy himself a lot of lavish stuff, even paying for expensive dinners. I always thought that his job just paid him well but your comment got me thinking about it.
confront the situation , it's pointless wondering all these things , you will drive yourself insane!
I'd be more concerned with the phone that you said was recording and if it was in fact recording or live for people to see while he was busy .
Beside that , you have to bring up the sexuality thing , yes there is men who only use toys for pleasure but some guys are bi and will say that it's simply pleasure because they scared to admit sexuality to their partner and ultimately thenselves, when in fact, actually bi or gay . But deffinately needs to be discussed.
Lots of women see warning signs(dildo in ass) , limp wrist or what ever ... And in the end , they the ones being hurt or betrayed because they were scared to confront the situation but at the same time incase he should be gay or bi(which I'm not saying he is) , don't blow your top , be calm , it's not something that can help and often can be something he never realised when he was younger or too afraid to act on . Rather try to be supportive .
Take a breather think about it, what you would be willing to do or not do (strap on maybe) , shock can be a bitch so be calm when you discuss it . Also ask about sexual partners , if he has been with guys , but don't be judgemental which can be hard when you feeling betrayed or lied too. I have dealt with about 12 cases within one year ... married men who is in fact gay or bisexual , there were exception who identified as straight but enjoys anal sex and had been with men but still straight , with those cases , like I mentioned to you , I suggested to the women to try and get more involved and see what they are comfortable with, if you are willing to do more sexual exploring, if you willing and want to make it work .
Ultimately , you need to know what's what , in this situation there is nothing wrong with thinking about what is best for you and if what you have is real and true , you deserve too know but also be gentle .
Yea, what Rose said. But also, just because of a guy liking the anal way, does not make them automatically gay or even bi. There's many guys that enjoy being on the receiving end of an anal sex. I have been curious for a long time to try with a real cock. Most adults I think have their stash of adult toys. But it's not something that will make you a lesbian if you touch It for him or her to close to it. Just talk to him, he will probably be more embarrassed than much else.
Its absolutely normal. Your only gay if you are attracted to the same sex as yourself. Sexual acts don't make you gay. Also, I recently discovered when my girlfriend asked to use hers on me that men get more out of anal than women. If you hit the right angle the dildo runs against a man's prostate gland and its amazing. I literally couldn't prevent my immediate orgasm. More and more men are realizing this. Trust me
married 45 years my wife and i share a great sex life i love anal and she loves licking and playing with her been a great 45 years
Probably not a good idea to be sharing that after he had it in his butt. Other than that, I remember the first time my wife slipped a finger inside me as she was going down. One thing led to another and we began shopping for toys together. We had a big ole' double ender we would both get on.
She is long gone now, but I have a lesbian friend who asked me to buy her something for christmas. She gotta girlfriend who is locked up. I told her i want to get the two of them a matched set. I want the middle!
NEVER let your boyfriend touch your dildo. You use it on him just you. Ok ?
find a way to join in with him will,,it will make some of the best sex I am sure there is something you like,, play together it's a lot of fun and LOVE my wife does me with a dildo and her hand we been together for 40 years and we are the best of friends