My boyfriend told me he'd had sex before but now says he was a virgin

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I've known my boyfriend for 4 years at university and he'd always said he'd slept with a few girls and had a few girlfriends. We started dating 2 years ago and has always joked about me being the only girl and about being a virgin and I always just laughed and said yea sure whatever cause he sounded like he was joking. Now he claims he really was a virgin when we met and he lied about it cause he was embarrassed. But that means he's lied to me the whole time and we've been really close the whole time I've known him. I just feel I don't know him as well now and he may have lied about other things. Plus he told me stories which he just made up so now I'm confused

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  • MR.mr
    6 years ago

    Ok lying about that alone is not unforgivable in my opinion.

    BUT

    You two need to have a serious conversation about everything and he needs to stop making up stories.

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  • Disappointmentaf
    6 years ago

    Just like the guy I've dated for 2 years. LEAVE HIS ASS HE A LIAR.

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  • Steve2017
    6 years ago

    A lot of guys lie because they don't want to appear inexperienced. Its that insecurity that i think all of us have when we feel embarrassed and you've had sex but we haven't or are friends have and we are like great. Wish i knew what that was like. Its also the judgmental insecurity that she's not going to think I'm any good and her ex was probably the best lover she had. It all those thoughts that can mess with you and make you lie.

    i don't believe MR.mr is right about it being unforgivable but i do agree that you need to have a talk with him. How you address the lying and how you feel about his lack of experience. Is up to you.

    But watch out for that train of thought. Well he lied about being a virgin so he must being lying about everything else or other things. Its what is called a Slippy Slope. Even tho its logically to ask if there was anything else that leap or fall can end up doing more damage.

    So my advice. Talk to him and make sure you state that if he lies to you again. You may break things off because relationships are based on trust.

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  • anormalperson
    6 years ago

    he clearly said he wasnt virgin to impress you and make you jeliuos to stay with him,sounds pretty normal and cute to me

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